I’m always surprised when it happens. 99% of the time I’m just tolerated, but every once in a while someone asks. Happened last night. I was sooooooooo happy.

  • starman2112@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    12·
    7 months ago

    I gotta find a way to signal to people that I love hearing their infodumps

    I just gotta find a better phrase that won’t make me look like a coprophile

    • Norah - She/TheyEnglish
      8·
      7 months ago

      I go with “I love listening to people talk passionately about their special interests”.

        • Norah - She/TheyEnglish
          4·
          7 months ago

          what an incredibly weird and uncomfy thing of you to say. i’ve never installed that dating app before…

          • retrolasered@lemmy.zipEnglish
            2·
            7 months ago

            haha, sorry if it made you uncomfortable! It’s a really common cue on a lot of profiles 😅 So many people use the apps now you just get used to the idea that everyone knows

            • Norah - She/TheyEnglish
              3·
              7 months ago

              Oh, okay, that makes more sense.

              I mean, I think a lot of the dating app culture stuff stays way more local. I’m in Australia so the stuff you commonly see is gonna be different.

    • GrayBackgroundMusic@lemm.eeOPEnglish
      8·
      7 months ago

      I find that asking specific, pointed, open-ended questions over time usually gets people to open up. “You said, blah-blah, can you explain that more? I’m not familiar.” and just listen.