• Pringles@lemm.ee
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    7 months ago

    I had a friend at university who was in quite a long relationship who kept a list of people she wanted to sleep with in case they broke up. So when they eventually had a break up, she postponed getting back together until she had cleared the list, which took her about two months. I was not on the list, in case you’re wondering, nor did I want to.

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      For real? That’s both sad and creepy.

      I hope the other person in the relationship bailed for their own sake.

      • 🦄🦄🦄@feddit.de
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        That’s both sad and creepy.

        How is it either of those things? Let people fuck who they want to fuck as long as it is consentual, who cares?

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          “Hey babe. I made a mistake. I want to get back together.”

          “Sure no problem! Me too! I just need to plow through this list of dudes I’m gonna fuck first.”

          Seems like an awfully shitty thing to do to someone that’s genuinely interested in you.

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            You cheat on someone: you’re a worthless piece of shit.

            You don’t get back together with someone because you want to have sex with other people first: you’re sad and creepy.

            One can never win when it comes to sex in a puritanical society, unless they very faithfully only have sex with one person.

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            Sounds kinda hot to me. To spice things up, I’d want to hear all about it when we get back together.

            E: Kink shamers, the lot of you! I’d rather be with an experienced lady over someone who’s only been with me.

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              Exactly, how else will they know they are with the best? In all aspects of a relationship

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              My point is if I’m interested in someone (man or women) I’m going to have zero interest in waiting for them to fuck a bunch of people first.

              Why would I? I clearly don’t mean anything to you if you need to fuck a bunch of people first.

              You just be young or have never been in a loving relationship before.

              If I told my girlfriend right before I started dating her that before we start I need to go bang 15 women, should have told me to get lost. And rightfully so.

              I can’t help but find this to be a sad reality.

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                Lol I am not young and have been in several decade-long relationships but sure go ahead assuming.

                I clearly don’t mean anything to you if you need to fuck a bunch of people first.

                Thats the real sad mindset I think. You are clearly tying value to number of sexual partners.

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                  lol no. Has nothing to do with valuing number of partners. It’s that I don’t want the woman I love fucking other people.

                  Is it really that hard to understand? Good lord.

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          Making a list of people to fuck can be a bit creepy for exactly the reason you mentioned: consent—or the absence of it.