• Default_Defect@midwest.social
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    7 months ago

    But why have people I know given me a ton of flak for the actions of men that I’ve never met nor had the opportunity to try to correct the actions of, merely for having a penis? Like, sorry for not being a clairvoyant and not stopping something from happening to you before I met you.

    • Neato@ttrpg.network
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      6 months ago

      Maybe because you defend them. Or they see you not being a proactive force. It’s not enough to stand by and wait for something horrendous to happen to try to stop. You need to be part of the culture of change which means changing how you joke and talk about things to actively pursuing to change even bad and minor habits of those you socialize with.

      Anything less is condoning.

    • starman2112@sh.itjust.works
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      6 months ago

      Do people give you a ton of flak, or do they complain about things they’ve experienced exclusively at the hands of men and you’re getting defensive about it?

      • Default_Defect@midwest.social
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        6 months ago

        If it were just venting to me, I wouldn’t say I was getting flak. Its the venting but also the finger pointing, acting like I was there and egging it on, when I wasn’t around it at all.