A 38-year-old man repeatedly tries to force his wife to have sex in the middle of the night but has no memory of his actions when he wakes up.
A married woman in her mid-20s often tears off her clothing and masturbates but remembers nothing when her partner rouses her.
For a dozen years, a 31-year-old man masturbates while asleep, at times injuring his groin. Embarrassed due to his unconscious behavior, he avoids relationships for eight years.
These are all clinically documented cases of sleep sex, or sexsomnia, part of a family of sleep disorders called parasomnias that include sleepwalking, sleep talking, sleep eating and sleep terrors.
I experienced this a bit for a year or two after my wife and I had a kid. I don’t know if it was the reduced frequency of sex or what. I’d usually come to and realize I’m feeling my wife’s tits and grinding against her. She’s usually engaged as well at this point, but I’m always embarrassed and ashamed by the time I realize what’s going on. I think we only carried out the rest of it once or twice, but usually I snap out of it when things start heating up. Feels rapey and I don’t like it, even if she thinks it’s funny. Fortunately it hasn’t happened in ages.