• meyotch@slrpnk.net
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      1 year ago

      Weirdo!

      But seriously that’s the way it really is. I think we need neighbors as badly as friends these days. It’s those casual second order relationships that contribute to a feeling of community.

      • 0x4E4F@lemmy.rollenspiel.monster
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        1 year ago

        Completely agree. I haven’t had a beer with a neighbour since I moved to my new appartment. We chit chat in the elevator with some of them, but now I’m just waiting for them to find out I’m in IT and electronics, so I could invite them over to fix whatever 😁.

        Hey, it’s practically begging, I know, but I actually don’t have any more friends. A few died in car accidents, some from heart attacks, some in the pandemic and the rest are abroad 🤷.

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        Full agreement and I think it’s one of the biggest reasons why I need to be involved in communities. “I know you, I like you, but I don’t have the time or energy to hit you up just to chat on purpose, if circumstances change we may become friends” is a really nice relationship to have a lot of.

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          1 year ago

          Being able to say “My man!” to the mailman and have that be that is strangely undervalued. The interaction is positive even if mostly insignificant and that gives a little boost of social confidence.

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        1 year ago

        I realize this is maybe an excuse but it’s hard to be friends with my neighbors after learning that they wouldn’t wear a mask to save a life.