• good_girl
    3·
    9 months ago

    just gonna repeat this because it seems like you didn’t see it

    Wanna know how to make sure trans people don’t attack you when you (assuming in good faith) “just ask questions?” Don’t be argumentative when they tell you something contrary to your preexisting beliefs.

    • Feddyteddy@lemmy.sdf.org
      3·
      9 months ago

      Being unable to contradict, or debate, or dig deeper is no way to deal with an equal human. That is awkward, and unnatural, it is walking on egg shells. Can it really be that there is an entire group of people that don’t want to be seen as equals and want everyone to always treat them with kid gloves? I highly, highly doubt it. The vast majority of them must want to just be seen as normal, equal peers. The solution can’t be to simply right off a whole group of people as the ones that you can’t be relaxed and comfortable around and just speak your mind.

      • good_girl
        2·
        9 months ago

        I have no idea how you got any of that from what I said.

        Disagree silently if you must disagree, but don’t be argumentative.

        Our existence and rights are not up for debate.

        • Feddyteddy@lemmy.sdf.org
          2·
          9 months ago

          I would never dream of arguing that you don’t deserve to exist or have rights.

          This discussion largely started because a good friend of mine, a 17 year old girl, was told that she would have to wrestle against someone who was identifying as a girl. This person was born a male, they went through male puberty, they never took any hormone blockers, they were absolutely going to crush her. A year prior to the fight, this person would have beat you up if you called them a girl. They were in a straight relationship with a girl. I’m sorry, but I won’t say it is fair for my friend to have to wrestle them. I won’t. It is terribly unfair. This is what I mean when I say that it is OK for me to have differing views.

            • Feddyteddy@lemmy.sdf.org
              1·
              9 months ago

              It did happen, and it isnt like it is an isolated event.

              This is very different from your response the last time I mentioned it(unless I have you mistaken with someone else). I thought before you said that the other wrestler had just as much right to fight as she did and “what about the future of the trans wrestler”. My apologies if that wasn’t you.

                • Feddyteddy@lemmy.sdf.org
                  2·
                  9 months ago

                  I was just saying that I was surprised that there was a trans celebrity that you also hated so badly. I can’t even come up with how you think this is a rehearsed line or something. I’m once again genuinely lost here.

                  I am listening to her now to try and get an idea of what her views are and the views of other trans people who disagree with her. I’m seriously blown away that there is so much infighting even amongst trans people. I was wrongfully assuming that the great divide was just between trans and some bigoted anti-trans people. The habit hole continues, I suppose.