• 0x4E4F@sh.itjust.works
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    11 个月前

    Do people really hook up in games 🤨? I mean… you have tons of other apps for that, why use game chats.

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      People hook up everywhere, plus if you meet through a game you already have a common interest and a lot of stuff to chitchat about Win/win

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      It’s an instant common denominator. What’s the difference than meeting at another hobby?

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      Dating apps are not optimised to help u find a partner, they’re made to keep u on the app

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        I met my fiancée at a training thing for work. Everyone canceled except her her, me, and the teacher, so we had a lot of time to talk lol. We are getting married in a year and a half.

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          Congratulations I am glad it worked out well for you two /pos

          I know some people have luck with them, that’s invevitable. I was just saying they aren’t great for most people and more so often are really bad for men’s self-esteem. Some great statistic videos go into depth with the dating pool ratios etc. to explain this.

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        And games are made to keep you playing, not find partners.

        Regardless, this was just a booty call, my experience is that they’re great for that.

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        I would say the exact opposite, they’re great for hookups.

        Maybe it’s the thing about some people being shy IRL (which I’m not), so making conversation is difficult for them.

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          There was this mean thing people would say back in like the 90s, that the people complaining online win every argument because everyone who had success was busy being in a relationship.

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            Maybe… that may hold some thruth as well. Or maybe just doing things IRL that people that were more engaged online, didn’t.

            It is a fact that our online lives take much of our every day time.

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      Man, I’ve met partners I dated for years because of random shit. Reddit, random interactions on discord, and a few more. My parents met because of a convention my dad organized for a show that was off the air for a few years at that point.

      Humans are social creatures and they do be socializing.

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        Yeah, but the pic is clearly about a hookup only. Dating apps are great for that, you just specify what exactly it is you’re looking for and you’re golden within a week or two.

        I have this friend, he litelarly didn’t go out with us for 2 straight years because of dating apps. He once did some math on how many different hookups he had over those 2 years, it was well over 200. He’s not handsome or anything, not particularly anyway, or hung or anything like that. He’s just friendly, funny and outgoing. Women sink into that, just be friendly and funny and that’s basically it.

        It’s not that hard really, even if you are not as outgoing and funny as him, you could still score once every 2 weeks or so… if sex is what you’re looking for.

        Oh, and the main thing, don’t be a picker. Pickers go home emptyhanded.

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          Nah, I don’t think that’s common. A lot of men swipe right on every woman, get a match with something like 1% of those, get a chat response with 0.1%, arrange a date with 0.01%, and have 100% back out of the date. At least that was my experience for a couple months of using dating apps, lol.

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            That is true, but only if you’re looking for a relationship. Yes, women are picky when it comes to relationships (well, men as well, now that I think about it). If you’re honest upfront and just state that you’re not looking for something serious, just fun, trust me, women are a lot more open to those one night stands than relationships. Why? There are no strings attached. She gets off, you get off, hell, you don’t even have to buy her dinner or anything, just go over to her place or a motel, whatever, and just have a few drinks, smoke some weed, whatever, to get in the mood. After that, you/she leaves and that’s that. The idea is that there are no strings attached from the start, and that’s what’s attracting about this scneario. You don’t put too much effort into it. After that, she can go about her dating as if nothing happened. You bump into her at the store, you pretend you don’t know her… she gives you scared look maybe, like “please, I’m with my bf here, don’t ruin it 😬” and of course, you don’t. Why? Cuz she might break up with him and give you another booty call. Plus, it’s not fair, she was just trying to blow off some steam, so were you, what’s done is done, no need for everyone to know that.

            Oh, and don’t mingle with married women… unless they’re some cockold couple or something like that. In any other case, married women are off the table. They usually have jelous/controlling husbands and you’re just asking for trouble fixing up a hookup with that woman. Always ask upfront if she’s married. She might lie, but hell, at least you asked and if you ever get that late night call from her hubby, you can always say that - I asked, she said she wasn’t married 🤷. If she’s married, drop her. That’s litelarly the only time you say no to a woman wanting a hookup.

            The upper paragraph is for single men only. If you’re married, the ONLY women you actually want to hook up with are married ones. Why? She’s got as much to loose as you do if she decides to reveal the affair… so you both keep quiet.

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      I haven’t played online games in literally decades, but in the 90s, when I used to play MUDs, people used them to hook up (or just do the cybersex thing) all the time. I’m guessing the only big difference now is voice and video are in the mix.