Image description: 4 panel comic titled If Trans People Said the Things Cis People Tell Them.

Panel one has an androgynous individual talking to a woman. The androgynous individual, “To me, you are 100% a girl, you know?” The woman has a look of confusion and disgust and responds with, “Wow, thanks.”

Panel two has the same androgynous individual speaking with a man. The androgynous individual is saying, “It’s so incredibly you look just like an actual boy!” The man is rubbing the back of his head in nervous confusion and says, “Yeah, I… am one?”

Panel three has the androgynous individual speaking with someone of ambiguous gender. The androgynous individual says, “I would never have guessed you were cis! Congratulations!” The other person is looking at them with an expression of confusion and concern.

Panel four has the androgynous individual speaking to a man. The androgynous individual says, “I think you are so brave for being who you are.” The man is frowning at them.

The comic is credited to @assignedmale on Facebook, Twitter and Tumblr and SophieLabelledraws on YouTube. Their merch is at assignedmale.etsy.com and Pateron is at patreon.com/sophielabelle

  • @toasteecup@lemmy.world
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    610 months ago

    Following that assumption path, ugh. That’s some bullshit.

    I definitely don’t think being trans or non trans is a choice. It’s a part of who that person is and I want to support that.

    Didn’t know coming out was a spectrum but it kinda makes sense. That being said, I still think it’s brave to step on any part of that spectrum as a trans person because that can cause so much upheaval in their life. Making that statement in any capacity is an act of bravery.

    (sorry I really don’t like the word cisgender, I can’t explain it beyond it’s an emotional reaction akin to nails on a chalkboard)

    • @cazsiel@lemmy.world
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      910 months ago

      I hate hearing it’s brave though. It shouldn’t be. It really shouldn’t be and every time I hear it I’m merely reminded that the person saying it exists in a world where they can see that transphobia but they do nothing about it. It’s almost like saying “wow you’re gay/trans? I’m too much of a coward to do anything that would ever make the world better for people like you.” It’s platitude and more telling on yourself than anything.

        • @cazsiel@lemmy.world
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          310 months ago

          What you say is fair and makes a lot of sense.

          I’ll tell you this though - and this is coming from someone who just learned you’re a Jew - you’re incredibly brave for being a Jew.

          • @toasteecup@lemmy.world
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            310 months ago

            Thanks, I was born this way.

            I guess this one doesn’t really work so well since I very much aspire to be that Jew with a lit menorah in a window with a Nazi flag clearly in the distance. I am who I am and I take pride in it target on my back or not.

    • @violetraven
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      510 months ago

      “sorry I really don’t like the word cisgender, I can’t explain it beyond it’s an emotional reaction akin to nails on a chalkboard)”
      What would you rather be used?

      • @toasteecup@lemmy.world
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        610 months ago

        When I think of something I’ll let you know. For now I just accept that I’ll hear it and I’ll say nontrans.

      • @nocturne213@lemm.ee
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        410 months ago

        Maybe Greek instead of Latin? I think that would be homogender instead of cisgender and heterogender instead of transgender.

        • @toasteecup@lemmy.world
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          610 months ago

          Won’t lie, I’m digging homogender. No reason we can’t use homogender as a synonym for cisgender.

          It’ll piss off the transphobic assholes by making the really stupid ones think we’re calling them gay.

          • @nocturne213@lemm.ee
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            410 months ago

            That was the exact reason I posted it (I cannot take credit for the idea, that I got from TikTok ). I personally am a cisgender straight white male, that said, I have no issue being called homogender.

        • @BiNonBiOPM
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          210 months ago

          I like that cis- and trans- mean on this side and on the other side. It captures a sense of motion I like. Homo- and hetero- meaning same or different doesn’t do the same thing for me.

          If you wanted to go Greek I would start with looking at dia- for across and maybe peri- for near.

    • @nocturne213@lemm.ee
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      410 months ago

      Didn’t know coming out was a spectrum but it kinda makes sense.

      I work with some high school kids, one of the students is out and open with her friends but her conservative catholic family has no idea and is anti gay. So she hides it from them.

      • @toasteecup@lemmy.world
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        210 months ago

        I was wondering if the spectrum was “various groups the person is ‘out’ to”

        Thank you for clarifying that!