Today I had a work call with a colleague who has been mentoring me for a few months now (nothing serious, just someone to ask now and then if I need advice). Around half way through this call, once they had answered my original question, out of the blue and unprompted they asked “wasp, have you considered that you might be neurodivergent?”

From the short conversation I then had, they have noticed that I hyperfocus, I can’t organise for shit, I regularly stop mid sentence and change the subject, and that I bounce between trains of thought rapidly which makes it hard for people to keep up. I was a bit surprised as I don’t work particularly closely with this colleague and while I’m aware that I do these things they have never really been mentioned before, and certainly not attributed to anything other than me being a bit overenthusiastic.

I won’t delve too deeply here, but today has certainly been a day of self reflection. Regardless of whether I am or am not neurodivergent, I have always felt able to pass as neurotypical and today has been the first time I have had anyone question this. Suddenly I’m thinking that maybe I should be taking the possibility of me having ADHD a lot more seriously. The penny has finally dropped that I need to get this checked out.

Any advice on what I should do next? I’ve booked in to see my doctor, but what would you all recommend to a potential ADHD newcomer?

  • @waspOP
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    411 months ago

    Thank you for this - I can relate to this and it’s reassuring to know I’m not alone!

    Especially with parents. My parents are, in my opinion, both textbook cases of undiagnosed ADHD (especially compulsiveness and hyperfocus). Yet they are both against any form of label that might define you as “different”. Not in an oppressive way, more a "Does it matter? You are who you are regardless” way. It’s probably not been helpful for them or myself and may explain why I’ve always tried to ignore signs to “be normal” and not ask for or seek support.

    • @Leilys@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      111 months ago

      Two of them? Bless you. In the midst of my dad telling me that “You’re not special, everyone has the same problems with falling asleep in class, me included”, I realised my grandmother also had some traits and that it was likely hereditary.

      The stigma around mental health was heavy “back in their day”. While I don’t fault them for their aversion to it, my mother’s blatant nonacceptance for my diagnosis despite herself now taking medication for anxiety has been a sore spot for me.