My tip for elderly incontinence is make a designated area (I use thick plastic like a tablecloth cover to protect the floor) and line it with Puppy Pads/ mats.
Also if you get an oil drip tray from an auto shop you can put kitty litter in it and the cat doesn’t have to step over anything to use it.
The relative is being callous, AND they clearly need some help managing a cat at this point, AND the relative is probably worried about themselves becoming like their poor cat who they probably also love.
What’s so hard about extending your empathy to the person as well as the cat?
Your relation is being callous.
My tip for elderly incontinence is make a designated area (I use thick plastic like a tablecloth cover to protect the floor) and line it with Puppy Pads/ mats.
Also if you get an oil drip tray from an auto shop you can put kitty litter in it and the cat doesn’t have to step over anything to use it.
This is what my parents always did. Works perfectly fine, just need to clean it daily or twice daily.
The relative is being callous, AND they clearly need some help managing a cat at this point, AND the relative is probably worried about themselves becoming like their poor cat who they probably also love.
What’s so hard about extending your empathy to the person as well as the cat?