The secret account is not for hiding money during a divorce. It is for fleeing or paying for expenses while going through the divorce.
It is common for one spouse, or the other, to empty all accounts in the lead up to the divorce. It does not matter how right you are when you cannot buy your kids food.
This is advice from an 85 year old. She has seen soon shit.
A couple thousand in an “oh shit” account is rational.
A neat detail here is that there’s no rule here that the account needs to be literally secret. You can tell your spouse you have a private account and you’ll put a couple hundred in out of your paycheck. A spouse in a healthy relationship should reply “sure, I’ll do the same.” It’s nice to have for holidays and secret presents too.
The secret account is not for hiding money during a divorce. It is for fleeing or paying for expenses while going through the divorce.
It is common for one spouse, or the other, to empty all accounts in the lead up to the divorce. It does not matter how right you are when you cannot buy your kids food.
This is advice from an 85 year old. She has seen soon shit.
A couple thousand in an “oh shit” account is rational.
This is not appreciated though if money is tight.
A neat detail here is that there’s no rule here that the account needs to be literally secret. You can tell your spouse you have a private account and you’ll put a couple hundred in out of your paycheck. A spouse in a healthy relationship should reply “sure, I’ll do the same.” It’s nice to have for holidays and secret presents too.
Oddly/interestingly, the concept of a dowry in Islam is to ensure the wife has access to some sort of funding in case the marriage ends