• @Pyr_Pressure@lemmy.ca
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    709 months ago

    Point of school is learning, yes. And fashion and looking good is also a part of learning, and expressing yourself, and attracting like minded individuals to build friendships, etc.

    Boys should be taught to control themselves if someone nearby is “distracting”, hey another thing they can learn at school. Teach kids how to be adults, not just algebra.

    • @rev_breather@lemmy.world
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      69 months ago

      The point is not about expressing yourself or looking good. Those are definitely positives.

      The point is about dressing distractingly. Say for example the man in the picture takes class for you, are you telling me his outfit won’t be distracting for you ?

      It is distracting because it is out of place for where it is worn, school. This man could come like this for a party and he would be a hit.

      The same applies for students, be it from any gender.

      The counter argument I always see is “boys should be taught to control”. While this is true and a certain amount of decency is expected from everyone even if they find someone attractive who is dressed non distractingly, the other side of the coin is that someone who is dressed inappropriately to the place (school) could distract “boys” even if they don’t find the person attractive. This it is definitely the problem of the outfit.

      In short the problem is the “everything goes” attitude

      • @spiderplant@lemm.ee
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        379 months ago

        What happens outside of school when boys are faced with a much more relaxed dress code, you still going to victim blame and blame the outfit?

        • @optissima@possumpat.io
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          269 months ago

          Eg, Imagine this anywhere else “I was driving, I saw someone wearing something showy, and I killed a pedestrian. I can’t believe that lady was dressed hot, they made me kill a pedestrian.” Does that seem right? No. Still the fault of the person looking.

              • @rev_breather@lemmy.world
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                39 months ago

                Because outside world you are free to be who you want to be. But in the school you are meant to study and there is a decorum. Very similar to a library, you cannot speak in a library because it is distracting.

                I have to be clear here, the problem lies in the subjectivity that “what is appropriate”. To solve this we have uniforms. And If there is a better solution I’m in for that.

                But as I stated before, one should not be one sided in their thought about this problem. Not everything can be dumped on the “boys should learn” phrase.

                While boys should definitely learn, the outfit also should fit the decorum.

                • @spiderplant@lemm.ee
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                  9 months ago

                  Dude I went to a catholic school with uniforms, it doesn’t stop you getting distracted.

                  I think all it did was give me a low level thing for tights 😅

                  Also in the “outside world” you aren’t truely free, there is public indecency laws at the very least.

                  • @rev_breather@lemmy.world
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                    19 months ago

                    Uniform is the solution we have at the moment. But as you said that’s not the best one. If there is a better solution we should go for it.

                    Regarding outside world, agree there as well. But compared to school obviously there is more freedom.

                    Overall, my whole point was the two sidedness of the issue.

        • @rev_breather@lemmy.world
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          9 months ago

          Not sure if you really read my comment. I was talking ONLY in the context of school, which the post is about.

          What happens outside school is a different conversation. Much more general in fact. We’d probably on the same page in that conv I believe.

          • @spiderplant@lemm.ee
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            I did but my problem is I, as many other think school should be prepare kids and young adults for life.

            And if school is meant to prepare you for adult life, it should somewhat emulate adult life in a safe setting. In which case talking about life outside is relevant.

            Alternatively you’re advocating for school to be more like prison lite where we can take control away from kids and young adults. Where they can’t decide for themselves what to wear and they need to be protected from their uges because we think they should be considered guilty before they do anything because we think they can’t resist and we refuse to teach them.

            If governments around the world can consider 16 old enough to enlist and learn how to use and be responsible for a firearm then schools should consider that age old enough and responsible enough to act appropriately around women no matter how they are dressed.

            • @rev_breather@lemmy.world
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              19 months ago

              Lol, you immediately took the thought to the extremes. How can what I said be remotely prison like 😂

              School is obviously meant to prepare one for adult life. As an adult you can’t be publicly indecent, so can you not be at school.

              Also, I agree everyone should act appropriately around everyone no matter how they are dressed.

              I didn’t understand what you meant by the firearm licence, but just so you know it is at least 18-21 minimum age with necessary courses and qualifications, around the world.

              • @spiderplant@lemm.ee
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                69 months ago

                It’s not really the extremes, it’s exactly what you were calling for. You called for uniforms which is taking agency away from young people and you said that it is the duty of schools to protect (I assume only the male) students from distractions which involves punishing the girls and assuming the boys are guaranteed to be guilty of this crime of distraction.

                Not gun lisences, im talking about joiming the military. A lot of countries have 16 or younger as enlisting age as well as children younger than that in cadets organisations.

      • @agent_flounder@lemmy.world
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        99 months ago

        Should we take it to extremes and have everyone wear a sheet with two holes for eyes so nobody is “distracted”? Otherwise how do you know that something won’t be distracting? Oh no, one kid is wearing a somewhat shiny watch–distraction imminent! Doom!

        By the time kids hit high school, they’re capable of not being distracted by others’ attire and on occasion if they are, there’s fortunately a teacher there to remind them to focus.

        I recall being distracted a few times but I also didn’t want to get in trouble or, you know, fail. And I have ADHD that wasn’t diagnosed at the time. If someone is so easily distracted many schools will help the kid out (not like when I was growing up).

        For example, my kid was distracted by noise when younger so she wore sound cancelling headphones. Now she can focus well enough without them.

        Nobody is advocating for “anything goes.” Some guidelines around basic decency are fine if it applies equally to boys and girls.

      • @CileTheSane@lemmy.ca
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        79 months ago

        In short the problem is the “everything goes” attitude

        Who is promoting an “everything goes” attitude? Was the school proposing to have no dress code at all? What specific suggested change in the dress code is the issue here?

        This whole “we can’t let students come to class on their underwear” argument doesn’t hold any water if the new rules wouldn’t allow it either.