Wander (They/Them)

They/them | 20 | Disabled | Ask me about puppets, I love puppetry and animation

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  • Wander (They/Them)toLGBTQ+*Permanently Deleted*
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    I think for sure my parents comes from some part of their strongly Christian upbringing or something like that. Where queer people are fine, but then also imagining also having your kid be queer is too much? Either way still doesn’t make sense and has hurt my relationship significantly with them. Especially considering I plan on moving in with my girlfriend at some point



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    They were “supportive” but when it comes to actual support they avoid it. When I mentioned ace and aro they dismissed it saying I’ll grow out of it. Been told my whole life we will love you whoever you love and whoever you are. I’ve had two relationships in secret :/ when I came out as non-binary it was forced and wasn’t meant to happen. Don’t remember what but they misgender me because “it’s too hard” to switch between they/them at the house and she/her with extended family -_- as if I don’t do that constantly. That and actively making fun of my name. They constantly talk about how queer rights matter but won’t actually support their queer kid. I’m so ready to move out. It’s bizarre I don’t get it










  • Its so frustrating finding out about a symptom I’m struggling with, and I try to look it up and its all aimed at kids. Even if its all targeted at kids, those kids will grow up and become adults, and still have the same issues and I don’t understand why.

    I think you’re right with the whole grow out of it thing. It fundamentally won’t for any of my ND stuff, I will just get better over time at managing, but its hard to do that when there’s no support. It’s like the phrase “stop making autism your whole personality”, no I cannot do that because fundamentally it affects everything.

    TLDR: I agree and I hate how resources are aimed at NTs despite the fact that we are autonomous adults, and even then kids need to feel like you understand and aren’t just talking at them.





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    I have felt so much safer here and comfortable. I think staying here has been best, both because based url, but also I love having a queer focused space. I feel much less exposed. I know some people might come in, but having a no transphobia policy feels so much better considering the amount of causal transphobia I used to see in some of my communities even if they were meant to be “Safe”. I also love the discussions here and so far feels so much less cliquish and open



  • This is definitely making me go hmm. I am diagnosed with dyslexia (and so many other things), but I struggle so much with math. Weird part is it should have been picked up with testing, then again uh my very obvious autism and ADHD was missed so who knows.

    Reading others comments here too helps since I really do struggle with math it feels like trying to juggle. I can do fine with a few, but some concepts just take out everything. It’s to the point where I’m a computer science major, and I dropped down to a Bachelor’s of Arts because I’m trying to avoid math as much as possible (I’m planning on doing web work so less heavy math)

    Thank you for this post, maybe this was the last push I needed to see and go research more