Oh yeah, absolutely. I didn’t mean to say that it’s malicious whenever someone always misgenders people. I just meant that I personally have a hard time not to interpret it as malicious behavior.

Oh wow, that sounds really tough. It’s good to hear that you seem to be able to handle it, though. That’s genuinely impressive. I get what you’re saying: Like I mentioned, I go by all pronouns but it’s still disappointing when people use he/him 99.99% of the time. They’re not wrong, it’s just a reminder that I do in fact look like a dude to everyone even though I would love to just have a genderless appearance – as hard as that may be to achieve because what appears masculine/feminine varies from person to person, but I digress.

Whenever someone mentions their pronouns to me, I just use those pronouns (surprise_pikachu.png). I don’t understand how people can just skip over that and do it wrong when they know better. It’s such a small thing. Seriously, it doesn’t take any effort, realistically, yet it can make such a huge difference. You can make someone’s day, maybe even someone’s week by just calling them “Miss”, for example. When I see the smile my transfem friend gets whenever I call her “little lady”… it’s just such a wave of joy. So little effort, such high reward. Almost as good as your friends referring to you as “a genderless demon” whenever they get frustrated that gendered jokes don’t work on you >:3

Thank you, hearing that is very reassuring.

I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt. However, I’m certain there are lots of people who have so little respect that they purposefully deadname people or at the very least are aware that they’re doing it. I just don’t want to assume that’s what people are doing all the time. Although when someone continuously fucks it up every single time, I find it hard not to interpret it as malicious behavior.

For example, Anny decided on a name over a month ago and that name still isn’t out to anyone but me (actually, today she had a introduction day at university where she introduced herself with that name for the first time… I was more excited about it than she was lol, I digress). Anytime we’d be alone, I’d call her by that name and as soon as someone else was within earshot, I switched back to the established nickname. It’s really not that difficult if you just care a little bit.

Thank you. Thank you for pushing through and being here with us