“Just killed the Hamburglar, might delete later.”

I am so glad I had the foresight to use yt-dlp to back up most of my favorite videos. Not all of them, but I just thought we’d get more time.

But yeah, I knew this would happen. The age verification thing was really controversial, so Google would have had to expect that people would try to find other ways to access YouTube. They won’t stop here and will go after Deno and NewPipe.

I’m pretty much done with YouTube. It’s just not what it used to be. All my favorite YouTubers are either gone, have changed for the worse, or are on Nebula. It’s mostly just slop, and I won’t miss it.

Thank you for sharing your experience. I think it’s hard not to get at least a little misandrist when we’re forced to live inauthentically, while being constantly associated with the patriarchy like we’re one of them. You’ve clearly acquired a lot of wisdom over your journey, and it’s nice to hear that your transition brought you peace and clarity.

I spent my entire life afraid of men, for a number of reasons, and worried about cis women being afraid of me for the exact same reasons I was afraid. While in the closet, I would obsess over looking as non-intimidating as possible and never felt like I could achieve it. At the same time, some of my best friends are men, and they’re genuinely wonderful people. I’m not sure they would have become my best friends if I’d been born a cis girl.

If there’s anything “good” that came out of my upbringing, it’s that I got to see and better understand the best versions of masculinity too.

My wavy hair doesn’t like too many washes, and leave-in conditioner keeps me from frizzing out in between. I’m on an A/B system with my routines because it’s too hard to neatly divide seven days, so I’ll wash my hair twice on an A week and three times on a B week.

Your wife is a wise woman. I will try that!

Idk, I’m a simple girl, I literally just want SRS and FFS to be covered by my insurance lol.

Edit: Maybe they could actually shrink me by about three inches and a few shoe sizes. Definitely that.

She’s out of line, but she’s right

I don’t know what your size is, but a lot of us (including me) wear shoe sizes that most stores don’t have in stock.

Thursday Boot Company has womens’ sneakers that go to size 13, and those are high quality. Someone did a three-year review, actually. Red Wings moc toe shoes are super durable and can be repaired. (Solovair and Jim Green are non-American alternatives for those boycotting.) Vans and Converse also has extended sizes, but those tend to be two-year shoes. I’d skip anything from Torrid and most other Chinese imports.

Underwear: The lady who runs Leolines is doing important work, but I’m not impressed with the quality. She splits the fabric in two places right where the tuck is, which is a design flaw that has led to multiple pairs failing on both me and my fiancee within a year. I’ve had way better experiences with TomboyX; the stitching is way tighter and it’s one big piece of fabric sewed to a waistband. I have yet to encounter a pair of tucking underwear that uses natural fibers, though. If you don’t need to tuck, I’ve had good experiences with PAKA and Branwyn.

Sure, I don’t disagree that a public post inevitably elicits responses from all sorts of potential audiences, but I think your choice to center yourself in the comment was kind of revealing.

I think if a man was, for example, physically or emotionally abused by a woman, got PTSD as a result, and he got out of that relationship, and later said “I hate women” in private to other men and/or trusted women, I wouldn’t feel great about that, but I would understand in that context why he would say it.

I think the rules change when you take the same language to the public sphere, including social media, especially when factoring in that women are in a more marginalized group.

But I don’t want to get into that, out of concern for justifying society’s irresponsible use of social media across the board. The thing I think matters more is that sometimes hurt people don’t use perfect language, and in private conversations, you can better contain the fallout that can come from that.

I get what you mean here. I had friends who would say similar things around me before I came out, and I would also have conflicting feelings about it. Like, if you say that about men, and you think I’m a man, is that what you think about me?

But no, not really. I’d also remember that I was trusted enough to be there for those conversations, so it wasn’t about me, even before they knew I was a woman too.

And yes, there are women who do have openly misandrist views. I’m thinking about the “political lesbians,” figures like Andrea Dworkin who believe all heterosexual relationships (and therefore reproduction) are inherently anti-woman, or those who see female separatist colonies as the answer to all our societal problems. But these people are in the minority. Most women, most feminists, have reasonable views about men. So whenever another one of those “dear men” posts come out, I do have to stop and wonder why people give them the least charitable interpretation on the internet.

I wish I could move around ink or pencil marks in a notebook, and between notebooks. That way I could better organize hand-written notes without wasting paper or having to use a laptop to type notes.

Imo it’s weird to expect random strangers to empathize on a personal level when the conversation starter is essentially “fuck your kind”.

Who do you think the message is directed at, other women or you?

This is one of those areas that make me think social media was a mistake.

Humans exaggerate. Humans are sometimes imprecise with language, especially when they’ve been hurt. Humans aren’t poised and composed 100% of the time. This applies to both women who have been hurt by men and say they “hate them,” and the men who take the words literally. But social media kind of moved conversations that were once in private or semi-private in-person spaces out in the open. It relies on these misunderstandings to fuel retention time and boost ad exposure.

In those in-person spaces, you could feel really depressed and tell other women “I hate men” to mean “I hate how men treat me,” and you’d have a really understanding environment and feel supported without bringing in waves of hurt, defensive men.

This post is nice, and it is wonderful when male allies read the message and not the words themselves. I hope more choose that approach in the future. But I don’t think this problem will ever go away, not as long as we choose social media as the place where the message is sent. I will say I am more sympathetic about women here, since the “I hate men” declaration nearly always comes from a man doing something genuinely hurtful, whereas defensiveness over “I hate men” comes from taking the words too literally.

Why do you care so much about the government and not sports bodies making this choice? Do you have any personal stake in this, or did they tell you you’re supposed to care?

It’s a dumb wedge issue that doesn’t matter. For student athletes, sports are about building cooperation and leadership skills and having fun, and for professional athletes, the issue is so relegated to a tiny amount of wealthy celebrity athletes that it’s completely divorced from the lives of everyday Americans. In both cases, there are non-government sports agencies who already make decisions. Unless it’s some ulterior motive to normalize thinking about trans women as men to push the overton window on other issues, I genuinely don’t understand why everyone cares so much.

I wish Democrats would just not talk about sports and instead redirect to equal employment and housing, while fighting attempts to ban HRT. I wish they would stop taking the bait.

Kamala is irrelevant and quite weird. And why does everyone who lost an election feel the need to write a book now?

Anything wool, be it merino or alpaca. They breathe amazingly on hot days and are warm and cozy on cold days. Paka and Darn Tough are my faves.

There was this really interesting indie game called Atlas Wept. I played the demo and it was really high-intensity fun using new and innovative systems. Loved it. But then reviewers on YouTube tore the game apart and the dev made the game so much easier that you could finish the game without really interacting with the core mechanics at all, without providing separate difficulty settings.

The game was still feeling good, but I feel like we really lost something, and people would have realized that if the dev had listened to more than just the people who are financially incentivized to be impatient with the games they play.

I’m going to delete my comments. You’re right about everything. I’m so sorry.