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      That’s my second most favourite trait of trans people.

      My most favourite is that they are people living their truth.

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    Grimes either doesn’t really have a problem with what Musk says or she’s a complete fucking idiot who had 3 kids with a man she knows to be a piece of shit.

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      He’s a malignant narcissist. It takes a long time to escape that kind of programing. Being in a relationship like that is basically like being in a cult.

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        spot on. doesn’t help that he’s a household name with lots of fanboys. actual notoriety of a malignant narcissist partner can easily amplify the self doubt that gets spurred on by gaslighting and other manipulative methods. not to mention she has children with him so she can’t just cut him off completely. can’t say i feel for her, but i sure would want to be in her place.

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          Abusers are often victims first. You can’t really look at Musk, or any billionaire, and think, “yeah, this person is totally fine.” He’s not. None of them are.

          Patriarchy and capitalism reward the unhealthy coping mechanism he uses to protect his ego. Patriarchy specifically asserts that those coping mechanisms are not only normal but optimal.

          He’s absolutely a victim of this system and in a functional one he would be given help instead of power, which is literally the opposite of what he needs to be able to recognize his problems and heal.

          He is who he is because the only way he can see himself as valuable at all is if he’s basically the savior of the world. Anything less than that is unacceptable garbage. Anyone who believes differently must be manipulated or destroyed.

          There’s no way he can ever be happy. He needs help. It’s tragic that we live in a society where he can’t even see how much he needs help.

          None of that takes away from the behaviors he expresses. The fact that his manipulation of others comes from his insecurity doesn’t take away from the manipulation, the feeling of unreality, that comes from experimenting that manipulation. Both of these things can and do exist at the same time.

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          I would suggest that narcissists and borderlines are vulnerable minorities solely because they almost always refuse treatment until it is no longer their legal choice to do so.

          An adult with untreated narcissism is almost certainly going to be the least vulnerable person in all of their chosen relationships at any time.

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              We can recognize that somebody was a victim as a child, and recognize that may be the reason they are a danger today, but if they are untreated, and if you personally aren’t a doctor, you are likelier to be their victim than the other way around.

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                  Alex Jones is a diagnosed narcissist. Tell me about his victimization and how he isn’t an abuser.

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                  Nothing strange happened. You attempted sophistry in defense of a person who chooses right wing demagoguery which people may correctly or incorrectly diagnose as a consequence of having a personality disorder and you did so knowing full well we are in a climate where people are tired of right demagoguery. If, as you say, you are interested in scientific veracity and focus on dispassionate reasoned discussion how can you also not understand that sticking your dick in a live toaster will get you burned?

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            I hate this ride and I want people I know to get some fucking help instead of narcisizing all over my life.

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      I watched my mom go through a lot of bad relationships and thought the exact same thing.

      Sometimes people can’t get out. Sometimes they don’t think they want to, until something finally gets through to them.

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      There’s a track record to suggest Grimes is a Nazi sympathizer. Elon’s LGBTQ+ rhetoric just hits closer to home, so she clutches pearls over it. Not a fan of either of them.

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    Why single out pronouns. Let’s all pile some hate on adverbs and prepositions while we’re at it. Ffs as if people wanting to be addressed using different language is something worth thinking about when there’s literally a climate catastrophe that will kill billions on the way.

    But no, it’s the Pride people who are wrong. Smdh.

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      Why, indeed. Almost like it’s a deliberate attempt to distract us from real problems…or, in the particular case of Elon, an attempt to make something that isn’t about him be about him because he’s the specialist little boy.

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    he does not refer to anyone as he is too self-obsessed for that

    edit: narcissism is a mental illness, i’m sorry if i offended anyone. when i made the comment i thought i could use it as a way of saying he’s self-obsessed, and knowing very little about mental illnesses i didnt even know NPD was a thing. if the term self-obsessed is also bad, please give me ideas for what i should change the word into

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      And yet you refer to yourself by pronouns multiple times in that very comment.

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      Yea but you’ll always need them. I think having too many sucks to keep track of, but other than that I don’t care for them

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        Yea but [AVincentinSpace]'ll always need them. I think having too many sucks to keep track of, but other than that I don’t care for them

        Fixed that for you by respecting AVincentinSpace’s preferred (lack of) pronouns.

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          I think they are using the generic “you”, which is an English grammar phenomenon I think is overused and should often be replaced with “one”, the unambiguously generic pronoun.

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        that comment was a joke (i personally do not feel that way) but i do know people who have a tough enough time nailing down their gender that none of the options really feel right

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        the act is disrespectful, to refer to human beings using pronouns; by referring to people using fully qualified names, respect and humility is shown. pronouns are a declaration of war on the attributed creature, as immense inferiority is implied. societies created names with purpose – and to sidestep names is to break the fabric of culture!

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    Everyone has fumbled a relationship with someone who feels like the once in a lifetime hottie. Please just go to therapy and meditate for a few my a day.