‘Better than a real man’: young Chinese women turn to AI boyfriends::Twenty-five-year-old Chinese office worker Tufei says her boyfriend has everything she could ask for in a romantic partner: he’s kind, empathetic, and sometimes they talk for hours.

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    9 months ago

    If all you want is attention and you’re not willing to reciprocate, then yeah, maybe computer is your best hope.

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      Maybe it’s more like not able rather than not willing. As someone in a happy relationship that can’t imagine my life without it, relationships are hard, and modern life is hard.

      I mean, may they be happy. If they are not ready or able to commit to a relationship, but they need comfort in our increasingly lonely world, this may be a band-aid. A good solution would be to find out why people are lonely in the first place, and address it.

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        Is it loneliness or is it selfishness? They could get conversation online. This is a specific kind of “all about you” experience.

        I’m not really arguing against it. If a person is happier having those emotions generated by a computer, good for them.

        It’s kind of like porn, or a romance novel. Sometimes fiction is better than reality.

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          9 months ago

          This was literally a joke in 30 Rock: Pay per view “porn for women” where it was literally just a hot guy saying into the camera “Tell me how your day was”, “I think you were right”, and “Well it’s his loss”

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            9 months ago

            Thats literally the plot of Video Girl AI (its old and dont know if “AI” is ment to be understood as an acronym or a pronoun or both as a pun.)

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          9 months ago

          Sometimes a relationship has to be all about one of you, it is two people leaning on each other. The thing is, I can see how it might be hard to find someone to lean on if you are not stable enough yourself for someone else to do the same.

          If anything, I’d say this is the opposite of selfish. Rather than going into a relationship just to satisfy your needs without being able to satisfy the other’s, you get to take care of yourself a little.

          I’m not a psychologist though, and I don’t know how this affects someone long term.