Was having this conversation with some new friends earlier and was curious. When did you guys figure out your sexuality/identity or whatever? Was there a person that helped you or a particular moment or event?

  • balerion@beehaw.orgEnglish
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    2 years ago

    I think I figured out I was bi when I was around 12? I don’t remember exactly what spurred it, but the first female fictional character I remember thinking was hot was Franziska von Karma. God. She’s the ideal woman.

    And tbh I’m just now starting to wonder if I may have more going on than just “cis chick” gender-wise. I’m pretty sure I’m a woman, but I might also be something else? Uhhhh if anyone has resources for figuring out if you may be multigender, or just wants to talk to me about it, that would be appreciated lol

    • Evkob@lemmy.caEnglish
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      2 years ago

      the first female fictional character I remember thinking was hot was Franziska von Karma.

      Wow, that is a throwback. I now want to replay through every Phoenix Wright game.

      Uhhhh if anyone has resources for figuring out if you may be multigender

      The gender dysphoria bible was a pretty enlightening read when I was beginning my gender crisis. Don’t let the word bible influence you into taking it as gospel, no document is perfect, but it does a pretty thorough job of explaining the different feelings characteristic of trans and non-binary people.

      • adarkenedfire@beehaw.orgEnglish
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        2 years ago

        Wow, that link is something I wish I had when I was starting out 6 or so years ago. Reading through it with my partner right now, it does a great job of succinctly but comprehensively consolidating so many things that we had to pick up in bits and pieces over time.

        • Moneymunkie@beehaw.orgEnglish
          3·
          2 years ago

          Agreed, but also curse that darn site for starting to make me question things a lot (in a good way though hehe)

        • adarkenedfire@beehaw.orgEnglish
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          2 years ago

          Just finished reading through it together, what an excellent resource. I especially liked and appreciated the explanations of gender euphoria and how it relates to gender dysphoria, one of the most thoughtful and clear articulations I’ve seen.

    • Gaywallet (they/it)@beehaw.orgMEnglish
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      2 years ago

      if anyone has resources for figuring out if you may be multigender, or just wants to talk to me about it, that would be appreciated lol

      If you feel like the label woman isn’t enough to adequately describe your feelings around gender, simply add more labels. You don’t have to overthink it as some kinda strict box, like you must fit x criteria to identify as y.