Hyia!
I have already mentioned how “nice” it is to be a trans girl in a small legacy software company, so unless anybody wants that I will not go into detail.
but I would love to hear others experiences or advice <3, positive or negative, what kind of company do you work at?, how is your experience?
infodumps welcome!
Lots of love <3, Xea
this place has a backwards IT and coding policy where everything’s proprietary and we’re not allowed to use any programs from the internet.
how… are you even supposed to work like that? oof
I don’t even… idk. I tried to beg IT for mercy on the phone but they said tough luck, it’s company policy.
I tried a startup, a small legacy software comp like yours, a 5000+ people corporation, and a shitty dev shop and an international regulatory body
- Startup is hit or miss
- 5000+ corp has diversity policies that protect you but outside of those they won’t care
- Shitty dev shop will be full of transphobes but they’ll never show it to your face
- Smol old software company will do everything to preserve the good vibes of the office, if they hire you it should go smoothly
- Big international gov has eastern european/greek/balkans/portuguese devs and they come with their religious beliefs and not super cutting edge beliefs about gender. They’ll have diversity policies but way less progressive than a private company - the bare uncriticizeable minimum, to cause the least amount of waves. Safe, no risk, and safe again.
I agree with your point on small software comps, issue is, I was still very unsure about my identity when I got hired, which is imo the only reason they took me, considering Im constantly disrespected, called by my deadname although I have made it clear I don’t want to be and I constantly listen to my coworkers talk about the “insanity of gender politics” as most of them are in the age close to retiring, which didn’t make it easy to actually learn to be myself
also wow you have alot of experience!! :o
The way I wrote it makes it look bigger than it is
- I worked at the startup as an apprenticeship (2 years) during my master’s degree,
- Barely did 4 months in a dev shop (they seemed stingy from the get-go so I continued looking for work as I was starting there)
- A year in the big corporation
- A year in the small company
- Ongoing half a year in big-international-government
Overall it’s just ~3 years out of school
If your coworkers are like that, it’s all ogre, this is the company’s culture and they’re never going to let go senior people who became friends with everyone if irreconcilable differences were to arise between you and them - also management probably shares the same opinions
I mean … that makes it seam like even more for me :3
jup that is how it feels and I have kind of emotionally adjusted to it, I have been meaning to look somewhere else, but I have no plan and no energy, I can’t just join some big corp because I couldn’t get a full education and the only reason I choose this place is because of my rather severe sensory issues
When I came out, I worked at a medium size company, kind of late stage startup-ish. I was shocked how accepting it was. The only transphobia I encountered was unfortunately from the head of HR, who made changing my name in the system really difficult. Everyone on my team was really good about my name and pronouns and it wasn’t a big deal. Outside the team, some people misgendered me but I didn’t really care enough to correct them since I didn’t have to work closely with them.
Now I work for a consultancy that has a reputation for promoting diversity, and it’s been really great. I’m transfem nonbinary but present very feminine, and my coworkers mostly treat me like a woman which is what I want, when I do get misgendered at work it’s usually she/her which is fun since I’m used to people assuming he/him. There are also many other out trans and queer people in the company which is great. Lots of my cis coworkers put their pronouns in their zoom names, email signatures, etc…
There are lots of accepting tech companies out there, just have to avoid tech-bro culture like early startups, and avoid giant enterprise companies where everyone is over 50
Hi,
I started freelancing a few years ago. I’m a front-end developer. I hadn’t changed my legal name then yet. So, I did what every trans programmer should do. Not disclose the fact, as long as I can.
I remember my first customer very well. I told him after I was contracted that my name wasn’t the name that was going to show up on the invoices. He freaked out… because he thought I was outsourcing the job. The “ohhhh okay” of relief he exhaled when I said I’m trans is something I will not forget.
No company that I know has cared about me being trans, nor it has impacted anything, which is, in my opinion, how it should be. I do not need to disclose my transness anymore (neither I freelance), but I know it wouldn’t be an issue. I only remember transphobia from my family. Just in case, I’m spanish, maybe your mileage will vary elsewhere.
Hope this is informative!
Was at a multi-tenant private cloud company. Networking, building servers, terraform, in house tooling pipelines, reverse engineering applications for performance profiling, sql profiling, security… I had enough death threats from those who might just get away with it - I left… Now well not much, few things here and there. Looking for work. I sell random things
I’m NB but I’ve been on hormones for almost 2 years and have definitely changed a lot while working for my current company. I’ve been with the company from when it was a 15 person startup to being a 200 person entrenched behemoth, and it’s pretty much been a great experience all the way. Granted, almost no-one uses my pronouns(Maybe 2 or 3 people in the company), however they are listed in my Slack profile, I have only ever verbally told my team them a single time, and I haven’t pushed since then. The more important thing to me is that I’m seen as a human being, which I feel like I am. My co-workers for sure think I’m weird(for many reasons), but they also accept me and appreciate my weirdness, even celebrating it in some cases.
I think it’s as good as can be expected. Just the fact that the company loosely encourages employees to list pronouns in their Slack profile is a big win for me.
