• violetraven
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    1 年前

    No, she does. She’s just going through a hard relationship moment on her end at this time.

    • shandrakor@lemmy.world
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      Okay, so my partner is just recently divorced from his years-estranged wife. He does not know if he wants to get married again, but I do. In loving him and being loved by him I found the reason people would want to tie their lives so fully with another’s. You are theirs and they are yours.

      This bothered me for a long time, and I promise I’m coming to something (that I think might be) relevant to your situation.

      I read a book… where the crawdads sing? I’m pretty sure. Anyhow a line in the book rang true with me, “we are married like wolves and geese are married” and I love that so much.

      So, while you cannot marry her in a legal sense, you can be romantic as fuck.

      Also! Just thought of this while typing. Do a commitment ceremony, nothing legal obviously but maybe do a cool cultural marriage ceremony like jumping over a broom around a fire or any of the myriad other marriage ceremonies other cultures use.

      Anyhow I’m sorry she’s having a hard time and I wish you and yours (and theirs (= ) all the very best. I can imagine a poly relationship could be difficult at times but it sounds like you’re doing all the right things.

      Stay awesome!

    • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
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      Oh that sucks. Good luck to all y’all. Few states are worse to find yourself in than one where what’s normally exactly right for you is only almost when you’re stressed