And you know what? They were right. My partner, trans elders, and levelheaded allies.

It’s so easy to be impatient when you first realize. Nothing can happen fast enough, and you want all the things, all at once. You want to be today where others are who have lived for decades to get there.

2.5 years into my transition it’s occurring to me just how much progress I’ve made, even over the last few months. My body is developing rapidly, but I’m also gaining confidence to show the world who I really am.

More people are using my name and pronouns every day, I’m wearing more comfortable clothes and I no longer obsess about whether anyone will notice. Male-failing is an almost daily occurrence. I’m developing my own authentic fem styles.

I have a looooong way to go yet, but I’m excited for what the future might bring. My goals are finally beginning to seem attainable.

Hopefully those of you who haven’t reached that point yet, and those going through a difficult time, can take solace in my little story about passing through into better times. Keep your head up, work toward your goals, and most of all be patient. It might take years, it might take a decade, but eventually you’ll realize it was worth it.

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    1 year ago

    It’s funny how slowly you stop needing to be patient. Someday you realize you aren’t even looking forward to changes in your body anymore because the only ones left are from getting older. You get there slow then fast then slow. And eventually you just think wow that time period was quick in retrospect.

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    1 year ago

    This is where I’m at right now. I’m fighting my hospital for HRT, and just wish I could be a girl already 😔

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    Thank you for this post. I cracked my egg a week ago today and feel like I can’t move fast enough but at the same time terrified to move TOO fast for my network of support. Which is a total of 2 people including my therapist, lol

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    So happy for you 💗 growing takes time, and is an ongoing process that never truly ends. Patience is the hardest thing early in transition, but before you know it you will hardly recognize yourself in old pre-hrt pictures.