• @rtxn@lemmy.world
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    1939 months ago

    Honestly it’s more like

    Oh boy, a well-defined task with a beginning, progress, an end, and an obvious benefit to someone! I get to be valuable!

    versus

    I have several days’ worth of clean clothes, there is no need to rush

    • @SkyeStarfall
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      319 months ago

      Yeah, tbh, I tend to not do a lot of my chores because… I don’t feel the need to. Why clean when I’m ok with the current level of dirtyness? Why wash when I still got clean stuff that I want to wear? Etc.

      • @BoxerDevil@lemmy.world
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        329 months ago

        Just realize that your level of comfort with dirt and debris can change gradually. And all of a sudden, you are hip deep in trash

        • @SkyeStarfall
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          99 months ago

          Eh, nah, that actually doesn’t happen to me. I do clean eventually.

    • @dependencyInjection@sh.itjust.works
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      119 months ago

      Exactly this, for me at least.

      I was a failure relative to my peers in my late thirties, got diagnosed with ADHD and it’s insane.

      So before I always wanted to be a software developer but I couldn’t finish shit, and just procrastinated and kept learning but never progressing.

      Afterwards, I am now a software developer and working from a massive spec sheet has kept me engaged the whole time. I still suck at planning but give me a plan and I’ll knock it put the park.

      What remains to be seen is if I still have the same vigour, 1 year, 2 years in etc.

    • @Laticauda@lemmy.ca
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      49 months ago

      For me personally, even if I don’t have days of clean clothes and NEED to do laundry like right now, it’s still way harder to do something for myself than it is to do it for someone else.

      • @rtxn@lemmy.world
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        339 months ago

        Try doing it out of spite.

        “That lump of shit in my cranium thinks I can’t do this task, well, I’ll show you, you glob of expired tapioca pudding!”

        • @Martineski@lemmy.dbzer0.comOP
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          159 months ago

          I have heard that self-talk actually helps you at doing tasks but I never managed to learn it so I can’t speak from experience.

        • ℕ𝕖𝕞𝕠
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          9 months ago

          The Kimya Dawson song “The Competition” is a great anthem for this.

          I just wanted to prove wrong the voices in my head… the ones that told me that I would never win
          When I delivered newspapers they said I was to slow
          When I was a barista they said I made lousy foam
          When I worked in retail they said I was a slob
          Much too dumb for school and much too lazy for a job
          So I rode my bike like lightning
          I made cappuccinos that would make the angels sing
          Took two showers a day and I dressed up like a princess
          Shook my fist in my own face and said “I’ll show you who’s the best!”

          • @TDCN@feddit.dk
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            49 months ago

            for me this is just eventually causing burnout and i end up in a dark place instead.

            • ℕ𝕖𝕞𝕠
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              A cogent warning. This is a great way to pump yourself up, but you can’t be always on. You have to give yourself time without motivation to recover. I’ve definitely overdone it and ended up in a days-long depressive funk.

  • @rustyfish@lemmy.world
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    229 months ago

    I am still fighting with back pain from last weekend, when I helped friends to carry 9 cubic meters of firewood. Would help again any time.

    I am also, in this very moment, fighting to get up from my couch and start, at the very least fucking start my washing machine or dishwasher. I am loosing.

    • LasagnaCat
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      129 months ago

      You can do it. This internet stranger believes in you.

  • @Anamana@feddit.de
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    189 months ago

    With this site I feel it’s like… aren’t these problems everyone suffers from? Or am I just projecting my potential fear of having a condition 😅

    • @Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de
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      289 months ago

      As has been said previously to this question: most people likely have issues like this from time to time, what makes it problematic is having them almost constantly and to such a degree that it’s crippling.

      Everyone coughs from time to time, but if you have a chronic cough that’s so bad that you cough up blood every time, that’s not normal and you need to see a doctor.

    • @Phen@lemmy.eco.br
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      169 months ago

      Kinda. One post I like to quote is the one that says that everybody pees too, but if you do it 30 times in an hour you need a doctor. ADHD is relatable to everyone because everybody deals with our problems to some extent, just in much more manageable doses.

    • @Piers@beehaw.org
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      79 months ago

      If everyone had this particular issue the world would be very different I think.

    • Funbreaker [she/her]
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      79 months ago

      The thing that separates a disorder from a normal issue is the magnitude and/or frequency of occurrence. E.G. most people that currently have a uterus will get cramps on their period, but if they’re actively in pain instead of just uncomfortable something is probably wrong

        • @SasquatchBanana@lemmy.world
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          39 months ago

          Well if you have cramps that are painful go see a doctor. If you are talking about having ADHD, just go with the flow and enjoy the memes. If you can connect with them then do so. If after a while you feel like you relate too much you can look up more about the condition and get an assessment.

          Nonetheless, just vibe and enjoy the memes.

      • @Laticauda@lemmy.ca
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        39 months ago

        That is a bad example because many women are actively in pain with cramps and have seen a doctor about it but have been told they’re just unlucky.

        • Funbreaker [she/her]
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          39 months ago

          …You can have doctors saying that you‘re just lazy or it‘s something totally different if you bring up ADHD. It‘s exactly why I used that analogy.

      • @Anamana@feddit.de
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        Just pondering on my own misery, cause I can relate is all. Wasn’t trying to put OP down for feeling it. I’ll try to be more careful with the wording next time thx

        • @Martineski@lemmy.dbzer0.comOP
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          79 months ago

          Oh, I didn’t share this to say that I’m going to ban you. I just thought that this post would answer your question. I made a lot of comments today and I was too tired to bother with explaining things.

        • @towerful@programming.dev
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          49 months ago

          I figure I have ADHD or some flavour. Mentioned it to my family, my sister went “huh” and got diagnosed.
          Im still waiting