Change is possible, breaking the cycle is possible. It’s only when the parents don’t want to change themselves when everything becomes fucked up.
It’s a kick-ass poem and having kids these days is at least questionable, but there is living proof out there that people can change and not everything is as bleak as it’s made out to be.
The poem was written semi-sarcastically. But it hits hard because there is truth to it.
Philip Larkin was not an anti-natalist.
Oh, I didn’t want to imply that this was my opinion of Larkin.
Ok. Anyways yeah I think it’s a cool poem but I don’t agree with it.
I have this anxiety that being too focused on not repeating the errors of my parents will make me oblivious to swaths of different, preventable mistakes that will fuck up the child I do not have yet.
We’re always fighting the last war
This was one of the main reasons I didn’t wanna have kids. After decades of therapy and working on myself, I’m finally at a point where I think I’d be an excellent parent but we’re old enough that I’m gonna remain childless. My older brother became a late-in-life father and he’s always afraid of dying before his kids are grown. No thanks.
You gotta try though lol
