- Brother: Chill
- Dad: Supportive of sexuality; on the fence about gender
- Mum: Supportive of sexuality; critical of gender
- Grandparents: Two of them are okay with homosexuality, but that’s about it. The other two read the Daily Express, so yeah…
Fully!
When I was 17 and trying to be discreet my mum slowly worked it out of me. When I was 18 and learned what asexuality was and broke it to my parents my dad read up about it to understand it more.
When my boyfriend and I first started getting serious and he’d spend the odd weekend here, my mum would occasionally ask “when are we seeing [his name] again?”
She eventually succumbed to Alzheimer’s, but she never lost her loving nature. She was the salt of the earth - a role model for kindness and compassion who I was lucky to be raised by. I wish that for everyone.
I have no idea what my father’s beliefs are or who he even really is but he doesn’t strike me as right wing. My mother is someone who would be accepting of other people but I’m not convinced that this acceptance would extent to me. My two older sisters who practically raised me would probably be accepting but still I’m scared of rejection in that regard.
Over all, if I had to break the news that I’m non-binary, first of all I’d probably have a bit of explaining to do of what non-binary even is in the first place. And I think they’d be accepting to my face but there would lots of phone calls and gossiping behind my back.
Yep, and that’s difficult. Once you tell them you lose control of the information
lose control of the information
Honestly that is an amazing way of putting it. And I think that pretty accurately describes how I feel about the big ‘coming out’ event. I would like people to know for the sake of my own freedom but also, I kinda like having my own secret world where I don’t have to explain or justify anything to anyone.
It’s also why whenever this question has come up in the past, I’ll usually say that I want to move somewhere new first before making it any more obvious that I’m not just a non-conformist. So that anyone who knows the truth has only ever known the real me without the mask, and I don’t have to explain myself to family or people I’ve barely spoken to in a decade.
That’s so true, the more they know the more you need to explain yourself. It’s exhausting
Haven’t come out to any of them yet. They’re all pretty devout Catholics and live in a red state, and my brother has repeated some of the “the schools are teaching the kids to be trans” bullshit, so I don’t have high hopes for any of them being supportive. I think coming out would probably mean most, if not all, of them stop talking to me. They’re likely to be the last ones I ever come out to
That’s rough mate and I feel for you. Do you have support from other people?
Thanks 💜
And I do, kind of. I’m out to my therapist, who is phenomenal and super supportive, and my wife, who is mostly supportive. And I came out as NB to a few of my friends a couple years ago, but I have yet to catch them up on the trans femme part
That’s great! I’m really glad such key people accept the true you
Thanks! My therapist is great, but things are still kind of bumpy with my wife. She’s super supportive of me being non-binary, but she’s really uneasy about the trans part of it. So right now I’m in this awkward position of trying to figure out what exactly what my transition goals are, while agonizing over how much I might potentially alienate my wife (who is my best friend in the world) and my family, if what I want is “too far”.
It’s a really hard balance and you know what’s right for you. You’ve got our support no matter what
Thanks, I really appreciate it 💜
It varies, most aren’t. I grew closer to the ones that supported me when I came out, like my aunts. The others I just sort of stopped talking to as it became clear they had no interest in changing their views.
Yep it was similar for me. They won’t change so I don’t associate with them. My aunt is fine with it so all is good
My family? Totally. My relatives? Not so much. My parents barely tolerate me, which is why I choose my family over my relatives every day.
I really like that distinction
Hahahahaha… ha. 😢
I’m your dad now and I love you.
We appeciate the sentiment. However we would prefer not to have a family relation suddenly put upon us considering the amount of trauma we have from such things, especially from our not chosen father.
Thanks for the support though.
Also, we, as it says on our profile prefer not to have love directed at us unless we are already close, thanks for trying though, genuinely.
Very. Am lucky in that regard. Am pan and my partner is trans. No big deal. Also my great uncle came out as gay a few years ago and even most of the family in his generation (he’s in his 60s now) are supportive. And recently my teenage sibling came out as trans and our parents are doing their best to get them the resources they need.
Hahahahahahahabahahabahahaba
Meh. Kinda supportive but only misgenders me about half the time (it’s an improvement!) and also some trans inclusive misogyny.
My grandpa lives near Подмосковье and is a Putin bootlicker.
Ive been completely cut off from my family for nearing a decade, so, not very lol
Ditto! If I need parents I go to !dadforaminute@lemmy.world They’re a lovely group of internet parents
Fully supportive!
parents understand and support me
siblings (that im in contact with) support me, others i lost contact for other reasons before coming out
grandparents love me but genuinely dont understand trans people at a fundamental level, i still need to explain a lot to them
generally everyone ive come out to are supportive, everyone i havent dont even recognize me or think im one of my sisters so whatever lol
My immediate family is supportive, extended family I think is but I don’t see them much. My mom specifically told me she’s noticed I seem truly happy for the first time in my life.
Haven’t come out, but in terms of the gradual changes, support from mom, the opposite from dad, brother 1 pretty neutral, haven’t seen brother 2 much.
