Hello, I am new here.
I am undiagnosed but have been essentially told by my therapist yeah you probably have ADHD, and suggested possibly being on the spectrum too. So I thought maybe this could be a good place to explore this issue I’ve noticed recently.
I mean stuff like personal appearance? It’s fine, nobody will say anything negative and I know that, but thinking about changing my beard style or removing it all together or I’m a little bored with some of my clothing. But thinking about doing something about it, I just know everyone will have to address it and ask the same questions or make the same comments about it and, I don’t know, like feel mentally exhausted just thinking about it.
Does anyone else experience this? It feels incredibly silly and annoying.
I’m with you there, but it’s always the dumb shit. Oh, this piece of hair should be going THIS way, I would look silly! meanwhile everything in wearing is wrinkled to hell.
Holy shit! Yeah, it’s like that sometimes. I probably haven’t ironed in years!
ADHD has a huge spectrum for how it looks. That’s what’s great about our community. I don’t get nervous about that stuff, but other things I do. I’m quite the opposite. My mind is all over the place. I’m very compulsive and love changing my look, my clothes, constantly getting new phones and smartwatches. But, I love consistency with my job, my routines for work and home life. I don’t like unscheduled last minute changes.
The way I have overcome that anxiety is to really just push myself to do things by basically pushing the intrusive thoughts to the back of my mind. I don’t know if it’s healthy, but I just I basically don’t think about and ignore the outcome of what may happen. I wish you the best of luck. You’re right, we won’t judge you here.
I have some of that too. My job is less routine, which is nice sometimes, but definitely the last second changes are difficult.
I guess maybe it’s more of a social anxiety thing. I do find it difficult and draining to interact with even people I work with sometimes, much less strangers.
I have a hard time putting myself out there… I guess I’m afraid of being judged or having my ideas or thoughts disregarded or put down.
Lemmy/Kbin have been helpful for me to converse with other people! Sometimes the risk is totally worth the reward! I’m pleased to meet you all!
Same. Rejection sensitivity sucks. That may be part of my thing.
I definitely love “anonymous” places online like this as opposed to regular social media.
I’m with you, I basically over analyze and over think things, often times to the detriment of something else that should have my attention at the moment.
I have medicine that helps but sometimes I’m “in the zone” and need to see something through.
I can relate to what your saying, and agree… this feels like a safe place to talk about these types of struggles. Hope you’re having a good day!
Wait a moment…
Do people not?
On a more serious note, yes. Especially before I started my meds.
After starting my meds I’m far more confident in myself and it doesn’t bother me as much. It still does, but just a lot less.
Interesting. I’m not sure I’ve confidence improving from medication.
The weird thing is, one of my medications may have increased my confidence, or at least relieved depression enough, to consider changing things up, but apparently not enough to just do it and not worry 😅
I still think I’m gonna go through with it, hopefully it’ll help me gain some confidence.
Likely (for me at least) the confidence came from knowing that I could now finish things I set my mind too, or hell even be able to set my mind to things
The reason your depression might be down is because adhd and depression medications both use a chemical called dopamine. Also fun fact, 20-30% of people with adhd also have major depression. As for you confidence, just stop think to much about it and just do what’s comfortable, it’s not that big a deal and it shouldn’t stress you out.
The meds I’ve got are focused on depression. I’ve known I was depressed longer than I’ve know I had adhd, and now I understand that’s probably why I was depressed.
My Dr told me that the way they usually go at these things is start with depressive or anxious symptoms first to see if it is adhd caused or not. Pretty sure it is at this point but still. I got on a combo that, Holy shit this is the longest I’ve been not depressed for as long as I can remember! It’s fucking insane! Like, is this how other people have felt the whole time?!
I am trying to just get out there, but shit is difficult man…
