• OldChicoAle@lemmy.world
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    21 days ago

    Just fucking stop. He’s trying. If he likes it, it works, okay? Goddam everyone gotta be so fucking mean and judgemental. And yes, I’m going through some shit rn

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    21 days ago

    Hey, some looks you gotta build yourself up to. I’m a dude with long hair, when I first let it grow long enough to tie back, it felt really weird being in public with a ponytail/ bun. I didn’t feel like “the guy with the ponytail” yet.

    A few more trips to the coffee shop, and hopefully this guy will just be “the guy in the cowboy hat” 👍🏽

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      21 days ago

      When I first grew my hair out as a young teen, I didn’t put it up at all until I cut it short again. The next time I tried growing it out it became my thing to always have it up

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        21 days ago

        Yup, I never tied my hair back growing up. Now that on my last hurrah with it as it’s falling out, I tend to tie it back more often than not when I’m working.

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      21 days ago

      Oh shit, I thought it was just me. I was so subconscious about it, I actually tie it up all the time. Then one day I started to get more confident and just let it down all the time.

      One time(while wearing a mask) someone called me ma’am. Another time a Indian man in Brisbane was being a dick and told me women can’t be in the male bathroom.

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        20 days ago

        I also used to have long hair and would accidentally get called ma’am back in the day. I noticed the person who said it is usually wayyy more mortified than you are. Partly because they misgendered you, but mostly because they totally just checked out your ass too. After realizing that, it never bothered me again.

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        Growing my hair out forever ago is how I learned (started, anyway) I have only a faint attachment to the male identity. I got called “ma’am” with surprising regularity and it never bothered me to be misgendered. My hair’s still long, but I’m fat and bearded so waitstaff are a lot more confident from all angles. People were a lot more casually homophobic back then too, but girls loved to play with it so the joke’s on them.

        I’ve always kept it brushed and loose unless I’m working and need it out of the way. (Or it’s windy. Damned wind.)

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          20 days ago

          Danm wind. Every time I ride a motorcycle, tangled level 100.

    • TwoBeeSan@lemmy.world
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      21 days ago

      Very much so. Wore a bun for years until I was like oh this doesn’t look like complete shit.

      I’d want someone to say if it did though lol

      My dad was cowboy hat guy. It helps if you get a porn stache going as well. Adds to the mystique.

    • Lv_InSaNe_vL@lemmy.world
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      Ive always been the “photographer friend” of my friend group. But up until recently it was either just on my phone or my little point and shoot (Olympus Infinity II).

      But i really prefer to shoot on my SLR (Canon AE-1) so I’ve started carrying that around with me. Sometimes I still think about how I’m the “weirdo with a camera” but to be honest with you everyone loves it and it’s a really great conversation starter. I’ve gotten pretty confident now but every once and a while it gets me again.

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        I went on a trip a couple months ago with some friends, one of which had recently gotten into photography. He brought a camera along (no idea what kind, it used film 🤷🏾‍♂️) and that little piece of plastic made the trip so much more enjoyable, through it he became our “in” for several fun interactions.

        Some people will feel otherwise, but until you give me a reason to add “weirdo” myself, people with cameras are just people with cameras, haha.

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            21 days ago

            He’s the leader of our Conservative party and a close contender to be our next Prime Minister. He’s about as fake as a person can be and has absolutely no vision or plan for Canada.

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              Sure he does. His vision is <please insert whatever old ass energy companies who are too stupid and slow to get with the green program want>, and he feels really strongly about it.

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            It’s just a cowboy hat, I don’t think they’re specific to Texas. I’m fairly certain that some parts of Canada have long been associated with cowboys.

            I know nothing about the guy wearing it in the picture though. He looks like a dick

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          21 days ago

          Same. The Libs are projected to win, but I’m really worried about low voter turnout as it was with America’s last election. I never want to see that fucking cunt become PM as he so badly craves.

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            21 days ago

            We are seeing good numbers in advance polling. I think this year will have a better voter turn out than most recent years.

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      21 days ago

      Is he even a cowboy if he doesn’t put his hat over his heart and address a woman as “ma’am”

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      21 days ago

      A cowboy once told me, that you can spot a fake by how clean their hat is.

      Since (so he told me) in case a bull had an episode, they would throw their hat in the other direction and climb over the corral fence. The bull would often go after the hat.

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      20 days ago

      At Texas A&M you won’t get ten seconds inside a building without someone politely but very forcefully telling you that you are being disrespectful wearing a hat inside.

    • GoodLuckToFriends@lemmy.today
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      Jesus tipping Mary, thank you! The hat was specifically to keep the sun off my face, out of my eyes, and the rain from running down my neck. As a fashion statement, I hate it. The ‘rodeo’ near me has so many dipshits rocking it because they think it makes them look the part, and meanwhile they’re on the third topo chico and sweating in the indoor AC.

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    21 days ago

    Sometimes people are just having tough days. Sometimes their insecurities aren’t worn on their sleeves or hats. Occasionally, we just have to wait a few days until our scalps recover from freak birthday candle accidents, and the hat fused to your skull by singed flesh and fat can be removed without surgical intervention. Everyone is living their own life. Don’t jump to conclusions.

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        19 days ago

        That story reminded me of an ex that was click training me. I didn’t realize it until her mother heard the clicks and asked them all upset about it.

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    That hurts. Do you attempt to give him a boost at the risk of the insincerity seeping into your affect, or try to just ignore it?

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      I feel like, if you are categorically incapable of coming up with something nice to say about someone’s hat with a degree of sincerity necessary to make it through that one-off interaction, then one of two things is true: either you’re the wrong person to be involving themselves, or the hat is so horrendous, the kind thing to do would actually be insulting them so they never wear it again. My money is on the former tho lol