Smoking.
Mirror selfie showing they use an iPhone, or if they are making that ironic “duck face”.
Gonna go out on a limb here and say the obvious: being unattractive.
This question is always fishing for the “weird” things, or for ways for everyone to pat themselves on the back for not being shallow and expressing their moral standpoints in their dating preferences.
But in this day and age, it is always worth it to return to the fundamentals and focus on the obvious. So what’s obvious?
- Don’t have a fucked up face.
- Don’t be grossly overweight or sickly thin.
- Show minimal signs of aging. If you are aging, age gracefully.
- Don’t neglect basic higiene and grooming.
- Don’t wear ratty or ill-fitting clothes.
- Don’t be sick.
- Don’t be angry or depressed.
So if anyone is actually trying to become more attractive - here is a good starting point. Accept the things you can’t change, and work on the things you can. And yeah, also treat waiters nicely.
It’s not something I can always tell “instantly”, but lack of curiosity. I can overlook a lot of flaws, being a very flawed person myself, but someone who isn’t curious about the world around them is an absolute waste of time, and no amount of physical beauty can make up for it.
Why I broke up ngl
A bad attitude: always negative and defeatist.
Treating service workers like shit.
Willful rejection of basic hygiene. Come on, now. Toothbrushes and toothpaste are at Dollar Tree, make some effort.
Arrogance.
And let’s not forget MAGAts, gross. May as well date a cockroach.
Fake boobs and inflated lips
Before they mention any backwards conservative bigot views, or throw their trash out the window of a moving a car, or treat minimum wage staff like dirt, I’m afraid to say that a big red flag for me personally is being religious.
And it’s not just because christians seem to be leading the charge in supporting right wing piece of shit politicians. It’s not just because they have looked the other way for decades while priests molest kids but treat drag queens reading books in a public library as the ultimate sin.
It’s from a lifetime of these people telling me that all the cartoons I enjoyed and music I listened to was going to send me to hell. It’s from believing in the first place that anyone different from you deserves to literally burn for eternity and not seeing a problem with that. It’s because of every christian that ever told me that only humans have souls and that other animals are just meat robots to use and abuse. It’s because of my reborn christian hostel master that used to go on long lectures about how KISS stands for Kids In Satan’s Service. And all of the other super racist, super christian piece of shit teachers in that school. It’s because of every christian that I have eaten a meal with that insists on holding hands and saying grace without once asking or checking what my beliefs are, or even giving a shit.
I have a lifelong suspicion and distrust of religious people and nothing that has been happening in the world socio-politically in the last decade has improved that suspicion, in fact it’s just made it worse.
So even if you claim to be a 'left wing christian" (like fucking for virginity) or try to tell me that most christians are decent people, all of the evidence says otherwise and tells me that christians are dogmatic and unempathetic and will support dogmatic and unempathetic leaders the first chance they get. And that makes us enemies.
The same goes for all monotheistic religions but a single out christianity here based on my own life experience.
The documentary Jesus Camp made me so unbelievably angry… I had to turn it off.
Saw that one too. Still have to laugh about them thanking god for “creating this power point presentation”. Funniest shit I could ever th8nk about.
Could never date a religious person either. The nice part is, I’ve never met a seriously religious person who didn’t let you know all about it without having to ask.
Your point have a lot of personal stuff, great point tho
Spitting. If I see a cute guy walking down the sidewalk and he spits at the ground, I’m immediately no longer interested.
Ohhhh gross! It pisses me off when people spit in public, nobody wants to see it or step on it! So gross, ugh. 😡
Smoking
+1
I can find a woman absolutely gorgeous, but as soon as she lights up a ciggie, I’m out. No thanks.
Not having empathy for others.
Echoing Fox News propaganda
I’m very intolerant of behavior that tells me type of people they are. For example throwing garbage on the floor, or being unkind to serving staff, or something like that. Red flags for sure.
And of course there’s the obvious stuff that is an instant deal breaker, like bigotry, being anti-vax, hating cats (or animals in general), right-wing politics, etc.
Not returning a shopping cart to the cart corral is an interesting litmus test to see how decent people can be. At least for me.
“That’s what they get paid to do.” Nah that doesn’t sit well with me. Being a lazy dick is not attractive.
Oh that’s a good one, yes. It’s something that costs you time and you get absolutely nothing in return.
Another one would be how they leave their (public) toilets behind. “That’s what cleaners are paid for.” No fuck off. – Though of course this one would be a little harder to actually witness. ;)
Wheeep whoop wooop, Cart Narcs!
- Racist
- Religious
- Egotistical/full of themselves
- Too much makeup/hair/clothing maintenance
- Unempathetic
- Not curious about the world
- Focus on celebrity news over real news
Being overly judgemental
They asked what made people unattractive to me. I didn’t say I wouldn’t be friends with them or shun them. I just wouldn’t be attracted to people like that. There are plenty of people in the world without those characteristics when picking a romantic partner.
Feels like you’re angling for a dunk.
- Angling for a dunk
- ANgling for a dunk
Religious
ALL religions, though? What about Buddhism?
I consider myself an ex-buddhist, there’s a bunch of useless pricks in the community. All preaching about compassion for the world without lifting a finger to help anyone and partaking in their weekly Tibetan karaoke sessions. Plus they’re killing off Muslims in Myanmar. Having grown up in the community, fuck em. Like most religions, the people claiming to follow it don’t actually perform any of the teachings, they only go through the motions while patting themselves on the back.
Using Lemmy
Treating waitstaff or any other retail/restaurant worker poorly.
I had a server today bring me a salad with onions and peppers after I asked her not to. I gently asked her for another salad the way I wanted it, and the poor woman nearly broke down in tears apologizing to me. I reassured her that it was fine and not a problem.
I can’t imagine what kind of asshole treated her so badly over an honest mistake. Like, really?
Or what kind of boss she has. When I see stuff like that, I always make sure to tip well.
“Why is Jim treating the magician poorly?” :/
