i’ll refrain from overposting but i’m a bit scared. kayla (20f) is my gf and (idk if she still is) but was a huge trump supporter. she was quite cruel to me because i first dated her as a trans man and she accused me of sexual harassment after we broke up.
we got back together and have been dating for quite some time (about 11 months) but we barely talk. she only plays video games and talks to her friends, so i barely chat with her, she rarely responds, and i don’t use Discord a lot where i chat with her.
i asked if this would work out and if she would prefer it if we were just friends, but im scared that she’ll accuse me of things again and make harassment/slander of me because i said that
@drbollocks Here’s something that sometimes helps me: Ask yourself, if someone else was in your situation, what would you tell them.
Because honestly, from what you’re writing, you don’t have much of a relationship to lose, and you seem to be clinging onto something that isn’t there, if it ever was.
It’s okay to break up with people for any reason or no reason at all, if only for your own peace of mind. Don’t stay with someone out of fear.
okay, so she doesn’t even mention me anymore. i’m done. I’m tired of being the second option
@drbollocks I’m proud of you. You didn’t deserve that.
Now treat yourself and remember this feeling whenever the doubts start creeping in.
I think you deserve better, and spending time on this person who clearly does not care about you or have your best interests at heart is a waste of your time. it may be best to put some distance between you two, I don’t see how giving them opportunity to hurt you more will help.
I’m terribly sorry that this person does not care about you, I hope you can spend your time and efforts on somebody who has your best interests at heart. everybody deserves love, and that includes you.
is it true that if she says we shouldn’t break up and does not give consent then she is still my gf?
consent is a two way street, you both need to consent, if you say no more, then that should be the end of it. she cant force you to stay with her this way, and its a common abuse tactic to manipulate people.
she was fine with it, im trying to remember that 20 year old kayla is not the same as 18 year old edgy kayla
Life is too short to be with someone you don’t get along with. Go explore yourself, meet other wonderful people, fuck some twinks, the world is yours!
I assume you two are not from the same city. Why not hang out with your local trans community and find your support and partner there?
i detransitioned 😞 mainly bc I felt more like a woman but also due to harassment from my ex
thank you so much tho!! :DD
Hey! It’s ok. It’s your journey and I wish you can explore your sexuality in the fullest without judgements.
