A great video about how fandom really doesn’t know how to handle asexual characters in media and likes to sexualise them regardless. There is nothing wrong with this in the sense of exploring identity etc in fan fiction inherently as long as they don’t pretend that it’s ever going to happen in canon or shout down asexuals who would like some characters that are canonically like them for once.
This is honestly a big part of why I avoid most fandom stuff.
It’s largely sex and relationship stuff, and I’m not interested in either of those aspects of the media I like. It’s mostly tolerable in the original media as long as it’s not egregious, but it can be a massive turnoff if it’s overdone or overemphasized. Even worse when the few characters one can relate to are, well, made unrelatable…
And the actual creators are bad enough about doing this; they do the same thing with most strong female characters who either explicitly or implicitly don’t want relationships or kids, only to end up falling in love or pregnant in season 3… It’s frustrating to have the rug pulled so often…
Yeah, same. That and I feel annoyed if they don’t really get the character.
Being demi* I don’t mind sex or relationship stuff in stories but it has to feel organic and like they have a bond, or at least that’s how I prefer it but I feel like there’s many many many that aren’t like that (especially that it feels forced just because they had to have a relationship in there).
Oh yeah, I really hate that, I mean people can change their mind, even characters but often it’s not really shown that way and it’s disappointing because they fall for a character rather than it be how it would or could be in real life: self reflection. They often completely change what the woman is like too, it’s disgusting, all her personality gone often. There are better ways to do it if that is honestly their goal all along but mostly they probably just run out of ideas to keep the show going.
*demisexual, demisensual, demiaffectionate, possibly demiromantic
