• 1st panel : spongebob in a stand caption reads “Single trans woman”
  • 2nd panel : a huge crowd gathered around spongebob
  • 3rd panel : spongebob adds a little paper on his table saying “I don’t use my penis”
  • 4th panel : the whole crowd left.
  • Stonewyvvern@lemmy.world
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    Long time ago Ally McBeal aired an episode where everyone had a problem with a dude dating a trans person (not sure if the nomenclature).

    They all had a problem with her having a dick. The dude dating her didn’t have a problem with it. But somehow everyone made it into a problem where there wasn’t one before.

    I just don’t understand how or why it was anyone else’s business to begin with. Culture social whatever nonsense reason they used to get involved was weak and shallow.

    Kinda showed how people will rationalize sticking their nose in where is doesn’t belong.

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    I’m a gigahon and way too ugly for any partner, appearently no man wants to date an ugly girl with a dick, that looks like a man

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    Honestly I’ve been too agoraphobic since COVID to even really put in the effort. I have Bumble sitting on my phone with no profile filled out and that’s as far as it’s gotten.

    But like, even the first panel sounds like kind of a boost. 😅

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    Single trans men just get the 4th panel fml

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      I dig dating trans men. I get to talk about motorcycles and guns and they usually want to help work on cars or motorcycles with me. Hang out in the woods and shoot rocks and in general do gross dangerous stuff together. For context I’m a cis bi sub

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      This is why I’ve personally dropped it. I can’t do HRT, bottom surgery is out, political trouble isn’t worth it, and I’ve already been turned down just for using the pronouns he/him. To add, I am in fact a bottom and straight. That little bit of self love doesn’t really feel worth it in my case.

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        Valid, I stopped T a week ago after 15 years and I’m playing around with the idea of detransition. At this point I feel I would be happier.

        Edit: This is in no way an implication that anyone else should stop HRT or pursue detransition.

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        My experience is that gay men want penis and bi men want to bottom. I’m strictly a bottom so that’s probably not helping my chances.

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          As a vers guy I prefer a long term partner with a penis, but would hookup with a cute trans guy for sure. The tops I know would date trans guys.

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            Not sure that this is the thread for that, but I’m happy to answer whatever in PMs.

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              Ah, thought this was in a different community and didn’t realize this was an explicitly SFW space! My bad

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    Wait until you say you don’t have one or a libido

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      At some point I think it’s just better not to tell people you’re trans , like If you have a neovagina and pass there is literally no visible difference.

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        Not if you’re actually looking for a happy partnership. It’s one thing if it actually doesn’t come up, but if you’re hiding it from a partner, well, you’re hiding an aspect of your life from your partner.

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        I have no desire to blend in to cishet society. I spent too long hiding in a closet to just get in to a new one, even if it is more comfortable than the old one

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          You make a good point 👍🏻 I was moreso arguing for not disclosing you’re trans in situations it might be difficult. I whole heartedly agree with you otherwise<3

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        Bottom surgery leaves a fair few scars, and neovagina’s don’t always function in the same way. This might work for trans women that are straight, but I doubt it would work for those that are sapphic. Someone’s going to notice if they’re eating you out (please enjoy my dumb joke about men not giving head).

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          I had bottom surgery 7 years ago, and my scars are pretty much invisible these days.

          That being said, I still don’t think people would mistake it for a cis vagina in the long term

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          I’ve heard that even a gynecologist could be “fooled”, there is a lot of info about neovaginas out there I’m not sure what is true and what isn’t :/ (Joke enjoyed c: )

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        That sounds rather dangerous. There seems to be a not-insignificant number of people who would get irrationally angry at being tricked into having “gay sex” and thus being turned gay, and the only way they know to ungay themselves is through violence.

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        But an audible one 💀 though the perception by others varies for me

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    Moooood

    Like, dude, I’m still down to penetrate you, as long as you don’t mind me using a strap on

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    …I’ll just have the first and fourth panels please… >_<

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      I mean, isn’t that part of the whole thing? They want to get railed without it being gay?

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      More than you would think, my previous partner evidently was. she was pretty great but never understood my bottom dysphoria. and always assumed I had “male” desires.

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      Not trans but I think the issue is more that there’s a lot of chasers. My opinion comes entirely from the many I saw on Grindr so take that with a metric ton of salt.