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Go create new traumas, those old ones are stale.
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Sounds like you’re living just like the rest of us friend :) Always good remembering that the person who thinks of your awkward moments the most is yourself, and just not dwell on them too long
Have yourself a lovely day!
Introverts make friends by letting an extrovert adopt them.
Can confirm, my cousin adopted me and introduced me to their friends.
reminder to my fellow extraverts to treat their introvert extra well today, they might need it
Yea. My strat is to be friends with the extrovert and then identify the other introverts who’re also friends with them and go be by ourselves together. I then return the favor by encouraging the introverts I’m now friends with to go to his outings.
This is so true! I have many other friends now because my best friend is a textbook example of an extrovert. He just knows people anywhere we go or at least someone knows him.
LMAO what is this from? It looks hilarious!
It’s from the movie Animal House. :) One of my favorite scenes ever (because who hasn’t been that kid? lol).
I’m still waiting for this to happen…
Make sure your windows are open wide enough to allow a person to jump through.
Worked for me! Roommate was throwing a party and my now-wife got dragged along to it by her friend
Same, but it was my cousin doing the dragging.
Y’all got set up.
Same, but it was my cousin… doing the dragging.
It’s really hard to meet people because all the people I want to know are hiding from humanity.
I don’t want the type of person I’d meet at a bar and there really aren’t many events for things I’m into around me. The people I’d like are more than likely like me, hoping I’d teleport into their living room just the same.
I’m also in a terrible place for my personality. It feels like I’m in materialistic asshat conservative HQ, so there’s that too…
Bentonville,
AKAR?Edit’ wrong state abbreviation. Sorry Alaska! Didn’t mean to offend any of the dozens of you up there.
Long Island actually lol
NY is weird because people have the impression that it’s all blue and chock full of “liberals” but a lot of long island is racist and conservative AF. A lot of “greater NY” is also conservative other than the larger cities. Long Island is also super expensive to live in so you tend to have more wealthy materialistic people here.
Is that in Nigeria? Or more somewhere in Asia?
Arkansas? No. It’s where the Walton’s gentrified the fuck out of what is now basically “their town.”
A buddy of mine got his first girlfriend in college after a family friend noticed that his single niece also liked manga and anime and introduced the two. I was very jealous of his attractive, nerdy girlfriend-turned-wife for several years until I finally got on a dating site and found love for myself.
My family friends do not know any other nerdy weebs…
I finally got on a dating site and found love for myself.
Luckyyy! I was on them for over a decade, but because of my location there’s a body of water separating all the cool people I’d see on there from me… Everyone around me is like the literal opposite of me.
I dunno how you went about it, but I’ve given some pointers to friends who weren’t having any luck with online dating, and a lot of them were being too passive about it, basing their potential match choices mainly off of “vibes” and sending mostly generic opening messages - the quantity-over-quality approach.
While I was on the site, I spent hours a day going through every single person’s profile - looking it over to really get as best of an understanding of the person as I could - and if I took interest in a few points, I’d send a message personalized to them based on what I saw on their profile. I also made sure that my own profile was well fleshed out, filling every field with well thought out responses, and putting up pictures of me hanging out with friends and doing activities like cooking and going to an amusement park.
Some, though not all, of the people who followed my advice eventually found success through dating sites. If you haven’t tried all this, I’d suggest giving it a shot. If you have, sorry for being presumptuous, and I hope that you find who you’re looking for eventually.
I spent hours a day going through every single person’s profile - looking it over to really get as best of an understanding of the person as I could - and if I took interest in a few points, I’d send a message personalized to them based on what I saw on their profile. I also made sure that my own profile was well fleshed out, filling every field with well thought out responses
I appreciate the advice, but I did all of this as well! I just don’t have the pictures of adventures because that’s not me lol I used to do a lot of hiking, but I’ve noticed a lot of profiles mention “I don’t care about your hiking or catching fish” (I don’t fish, but it was a common thing I’d read.) I think it’s just the kinds of people around me are too different than I am.
My self image definitely doesn’t help either. I’m of the age where everyone is a professional and I’m just a worthless shitbag factory supervisor.
Being a factory supervisor isn’t a worthless shitbag job.
It sure pays like one lol a bit better than a lot of other jobs an “uneducated” schmuck like me can get I suppose. I think it’s just how society views some types of jobs that leaves me feeling worthless.
Yeah well society is an asshole and personally I ignore most of what it says.
You’re in a position where you can affect whether the people around you feel like a worthless piece of shit, or like a valuable, appreciated human being. If you’re usually doing the latter and trying to avoid the former (and make it right when it does happen) then you’re not a worthless piece of shit.
You deserve to receive that too, and I’m sorry that you aren’t.
You’re in a position where you can affect whether the people around you feel like a worthless piece of shit, or like a valuable, appreciated human being.
That is actually how I operate, I’m always advocating for the guys I work with and buy them breakfast or something after a push. I always make sure to thank them for their help at the end of the day. It’s a bit easier as I work with them as opposed to over them and I think they see that. It helps that I get to point to the office as the “other” that is making life difficult as opposed to being part of it as well lol
That sucks, bud. I hope your future love makes their way to your living room eventually!
Thanks! I always keep a window open just in case! Lol :P
Atlantic Ocean?
That too lol but really the Long Island sound. A lot of people from Connecticut seem up my alley, but they’re an expensive ferry and hours and hours away…
I saw The Secret in high school and I’ve just been following its advice of wishing really hard. 🤷🏻♂️
I thought my problem was not going outside, but I recently saw a post about how most people meet online now.
So it turns out I just suck. That’s helpful to know
Tbf that is helpful info
I remember being surprised to realize/remember that there are (were?) totally kids that will knock on a new neighbor’s door to ask their parents if they could come out to meet them and play
Imagine… taking action to put yourself out there and meet friends. That’s kinda wild
Careful about where the posts come from-- Tinder et. al. have a vested interest in spreading the notion that the normal thing to do is to meet online, and so they publish surveys and press releases that reinforce that idea. Editorialists want a scoop about how the Digital Age is changing everything and the Youths Today are completely subverting existing norms.
Some people meet online, yeah, and good for them. But still, going outside and having interactions with real people is still the primary way to form relationships, and that’s helpful in dating, career, hobbies, and wellbeing in general.
You don’t just suck. Online dating is still hard, and everything is even harder when you don’t have a solid foundation of other relationships in your life.
Quantum physics proves the chance of this happening isn’t 0. Maybe if they wait long enough?
how else would i meet commander will riker, if not a transporter accident?
That post’s gotta chill with the personal attacks, geez.
Ew, a stranger appearing uninvited in my house?
No, they can teleport to the driveway like a normal person, thankyouverymuch.
Pls text before you teleport.
/tpa sundray
I mean, we are not 100% unfindable, we comment here on Lemmy! Normalize finding love through Lemmy (/jk).
People should normalize finding love through online communities.
Does having a cat count as being in a relationship? Because I feel like it should. I used to have a tuxedo cat who I actually got married to all the time. I couldn’t help it, he was all dapper.
Ive been going out more and looking at it as practice for when I meet someone I actually like. Id hate to run them off because I’m some kind of cave creature who can’t interact right
Have you not considered that you might run them off because you’re a socially adroit cave creature that’s out of their league?
You’re right, I’m defeating my own cause. Better get back to the cave and start chanting
They better fuckin not!
Teleports behind you
Nothing personal, kid
About bloody time, I’ve been waiting for you, now hurry up and do this!
