• Emerald@lemmy.world
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      Except it seems from the comment that they are still in a loving relationship, just not much of a sexual one.

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              They aren’t being neglected just because someone doesn’t want to have sex with them. That’s such a strange take.

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                If one person choses to be asexual after having a healthy sex drive until that point that does not mean the other person has to be asexual aswell. Why is this such a hard concept for you?

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                  You don’t seem to know what asexual means. Asexual doesn’t mean someone who doesn’t have sex. Asexual is someone who doesn’t experience sexual attraction.

                  But anyways, of course the other person is free to break up and find someone else who will have sex with them. However, they aren’t being neglected. Nobody owes someone their body.

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                    What’s with the pedantry? If they feel no sexual attraction to their partner and therefore never have sex the difference between that and asexuality is trivial. No one is forcing them to have sex. They just are no longer are a participant in a loving, caring, marriage.

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        Cause it’s condescending to explain to a person you don’t know who has been in a serious relationship with a person you dont know for who knows how long that you can tap it if you’re just an extra good boy.

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          Pretty condescending to tell somebody you don’t know that they need to get divorced too. Tbh libidos can go to shit after kids so yeah. Maybe my funny joke wasn’t so funny. Ah well, I always have had a crap sense of humour

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              Second only to a death, divorce is the biggest possible deal for a family, and I’m tired of people pretending like it’s not. It’s valid in cases of abuse, or if the unhappiness is to a degree where it becomes emotionally damaging to the kids, but divorce should not even be put on the list of available options. Divorce is what you do when none of the available options end up working.

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                Booooo

                Edit: You got some real trauma there and should work that out. You act as though marriage is some force of nature or divine law. You can hype it up all you want but end of the day it’s just two people working on a collaborative project. Wipe this illusion of social order from your brain. Society tries to order itself and human nature interferes. The more we allow ourselves to be human the less we will feel like we’ve failed society.