• @shneancy@lemmy.world
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        nah, oddly enough biphobia exists even within the LGBTQ community, it’s baffling.

        in order of difficulty:

        being cis and straight

        being gay

        being bi

        being trans

        • @skyspydude1@lemmy.world
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          Biased a bit, but I’d say that in relatively LGBT friendly places, bi can almost be more difficult than gay at this point. I’ve got family members who can be quite bigoted at times, who have now become totally fine with the various gay people they know, but have openly stated multiple times that bi people are just closeted/experimenting/deviant/etc.

          Likewise, I have a couple of LGBT friends that legitimately get upset at bi people in hetero relationships, because they’re “straight passing”. It’s utterly ridiculous, but definitely a trend I’ve noticed over time.

    • @Drivebyhaiku@lemmy.world
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      Coming out to my Mom as a transmasc non-binary person was kind of hilarious.

      Mum : So you are kind of a gay man then?

      Me : I… Guess so?

      Mum : So your Husband (who has a solid female phenotype preference)… Is also gay?

      Me : Uh… He’s kind of queer by association yeah. Like my LGBTQIA+ 1.

      Mum : Oh! That’s what the plus is for!

      Me :… Yes.

        • @Drivebyhaiku@lemmy.world
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          My folks are generally wholesome. I do have family members who are not onboard but like… We estranged from them largely for other biblethumpery reasons.

          My coming out to my Grandparents was hilarious. My granddad with his hearing aids somewhere other than his ears was bellowing at the top of his lungs "(Chosen Name) IS A GREAT NAME KIDDO! I ALWAYS KNEW YOU TOOK AFTER ME! " as my Gran was like a minute behind the conversation and trying to clarify what was going down over the din granddad was making. It was like 15 minutes of utterly chaos that had me just dying with laughter.

          But then they are all kind of cool. My 90 year old Great Uncle has a non-binary carer and went to his small town pride with his walker wearing a shirt that read “I’m 90 and I get it. What’s your excuse?”

  • MrMobius
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    “So mom, let me explain to you the difference between gender and sexual orientation.” I had this talk in a bar a long time ago and boy, a lot of people need this explained!

    • Mia
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      I still don’t understand what it is they find so complicated

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        The only thing I find complicated is when I read about someone such as in a news article and I see the phrase trans man/woman and my brain is like ok so which one are they identifying as? My brain has trouble parsing out if that means they were that gender or are that gender now, I think it means that’s what they are now? My best friend is non-binary so I honestly don’t spend a ton of time thinking about it. They are just who they are but I certainly could go for an explanations so as to not be an ass by accident.

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          Trans man: F -> M
          Trans woman: M -> F

          As long as you’re willing to learn and do your best no one will fault you for getting confused sometimes don’t worry :3

  • @OldEggNewTricks
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    Girls are the best <3

    Still haven’t quite figured myself out yet, and I don’t see myself turning away from girls post-transition, but… maybe bi? I kind of get all blushy thinking about it though.

  • katy ✨
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    i like how this meme is the perfect illustration of “do i want to be her or date her”

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    Hormones made me gayer, this managed to confuse most people I’ve told (I had sparing and mild attraction to men before, none after, but the difference was enough for me to notice after losing it that I’d had it)