• garbagebagel@lemmy.world
    50·
    5 months ago

    Y’all I’ve been too embarrassed to tell my therapist but the way I pulled myself out of a deep depression a few months ago was because I started masturbating regularly, which I had never done before. It’s not working very well anymore but now when I talk to them it’s like “oh well what were you doing differently last time you felt better?” Idk man, it’s a mystery.

    • hswolf@lemmy.world
      24·
      5 months ago

      no psychologist here, but wouldn’t the “doing nothing different” be the cause?

      maybe try a few toys, there’s so many types these days, putting stuff up in the ass is also a good choice, lots of pleasure points there for both sexes

      maybe you could find some relieve exploring your own body? that worked somewhat for me, maybe I’ve become a pervert or a degenerate, but I feel very good about myself and with myself

      • RadicalEagle@lemmy.world
        14·
        5 months ago

        Also just talking about your kinks and other things you’re ashamed of with people you trust is really helpful in clearing that. Shame will hold you back from being true to yourself, and it’s not worth it.

      • garbagebagel@lemmy.world
        6·
        5 months ago

        Exploring my body unfortunately causes quite a bit of dysphoria for me which is why I rarely used to do it in the first place, but maybe I’ll work with them on that issue first and then I can try exploring haha.

        You’re not a pervert, it’s great you can feel comfortable and enjoy yourself (as long as you’re not doing it in front of non-consenting parties…)

      • CaptainEffort@sh.itjust.works
        3·
        4 months ago

        For the record I love this comment, but find it funny that the answer to depression is just “try putting stuff up your butt”.

    • Clent@lemmy.world
      18·
      5 months ago

      If you can’t talk to your therapist about this l, they may not be the right therapist for you.

    • Taako_Tuesday@lemmy.ca
      10·
      5 months ago

      It served as a source of novel pleasure, now it’s just pleasure. Something else that’s new and exciting could be what you’re looking for, just make sure it doesn’t turn to excessive drug use or something else thats irresponsible

  • Coskii
    42·
    5 months ago

    Neither. I need that bastard to stop trying to prop a tent after any minor provocation.

  • NickwithaC@lemmy.worldEnglish
    32·
    5 months ago

    are u masturbating sleeping because you’re horny sleepy or because you’re depressed and need the dopamine

    • fossphi@lemm.eeEnglish
      20·
      5 months ago

      Can’t be depressed while you’re asleep. My coping mechanism numero uno

  • LinkOpensChest.wav
    20·
    5 months ago

    Both, and I also rub one out every time I read a comment from a no-fapper

    November is exhausting

    • Pleb@feddit.de
      9·
      5 months ago

      I also rub one out every time I read a comment from a no-fapper

      Based.

      November is exhausting

      Sad but true. Still, thank you for your service O7

    • Gormadt
      11·
      5 months ago

      I feel you friend

      When I got a hernia a couple years ago I couldn’t for 3 months due to pain before the surgery‡ and then 2 months after the surgery (doc said 2 weeks but there was still too much pain in the area)

      That was hard

      ‡ Had to wait 3 months because my insurance was insisting it was an “optional” surgery because it didn’t have my guts pinched so they were not wanting to cover it. My doc was insistent that it wasn’t optional due to the level of pain I was in. In the end the doc won and it was covered.