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I’ve always maintained that the name should be changed to executive functioning disorder.
That’s much better than just calling it Executive Disorder.
I really don’t want to tell people I have ED.
Executive dysfunction is already it’s own thing which is really only one part of ADHD and autism.
Oh, people are well aware of your… ED.
YOU SAID YOU WOULDNT TELL ANYONE STACEY!
This is what happens when you drop someone to chase their mom.
That’s actually a really good idea
…I really need to get tested for ADHD. This community has single-handedly convinced me.
Last time I tried I was told there was no way to have it if you did well in earlier school years :/
You were misled. What if your microfocus was school work?
Wait you’re telling me studying uninterruptedly for 15 hours a day with a focus that would make a jedi jealous for four weeks in a row and not being able to get yourself up to go to lectures the rest of the time isn’t the normal way how people graduate best in class?
(I’m the 4th square in the meme): You all graduated?
I think it’s fair to say that schoolwork just outpaces attention span and focus at some point. Many people do well in their first years, and the struggles often only manifest themselves when more and more subjects get added, each with higher workloads than before.
Makes a lot of sense, but some people just cling to the but you did so well in elementary school thing
You’re normally expected to have lifelong symptoms, but that doesn’t mean you had to do badly in school.
You can constantly daydream, lose stuff and turn up late for everything and still ace tests, at least early on. It gets harder to get away with this later in life.
Also a ton of overlap with autism
Was about to say most of what’s in OP is Autist not Adist.
There’s a ton of overlap between the two, to the point where if you have one you should subscribe to the others community because the memes will still be very relatable
I’m not expert by any means but I’m pretty sure most of these things aren’t ADHD
Good thing you’re not an expert.
Whether they’re directly caused by an ADHD neurotype or not, all those things are associated with ADHD
To pick one at random, Rejection Sensitive Disphoria (RSD) is often found with people who have ADHD. People dealing with RSD often imagine rejection where none was intended. That includes reading negative feelings into text messages, conversations, etc.
(CAVEAT: I am not an expert. This is not my professional field. This is speculation from someone who has ADHD and is around ADHD kids) I don’t know if there’s good research out there or not about RSD+ ADHD, but I suspect RSD is conditioned. Growing up with ADHD, you get a lot of negative feedback from people. You aren’t paying attention well enough, you’re often clumsy, you often say the wrong things at the wrong time, etc. With enough of that sort of feedback, developing negative self talk which turns into full RSD sounds like a natural outcome.
Yeaaaah all of these things are very common among people with ADHD. So, not to put too fine a point on it, but you are super wrong.
“What kind of idiot do you take me for?”
“No, thanks. You can stay right where you are.”
This one I don’t get.
Yup.
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Very well. I shall never forget this experience.
I don’t really understand if this is a negative or positive experience, but I just wanted to add that like you said some of the things listed are common for many people without ADHD. But people with ADHD can relate to many or all of the things listed in the post, and it often irks them when people without ADHD talk about the disorder as something insignificant. Maybe you didn’t mean to do that but it does seem to be insensitive. Thanks for understanding.
It’s both negative and positive. I wasn’t aware of that rule, so good job pointing it out to me.
I do have ADHD and I experience most/all of these, I just never thought they are all directly traceable to ADHD. What I thought - which perhaps wasn’t clear - is that these are all distinct disorders, which are just as much out of one’s control as ADHD, but which are not necessarily symptoms of ADHD itself.
I did preface with “I’m no expert”, and I can see that I might be wrong. I’m happy to leave my comment up and let the downvotes and replies do their thing.
Don’t forget about light sensitivity, aka “I guess I’m a vampire now, but it didn’t even come with a badass fitted trenchcoat.”
My partner has trouble seeing in dim light… guess which kind of light I love!
My family thinks it’s weird that I brush my teeth in the dark in the morning. The light coming from under the door is more than enough for me
You can buy the trenchcoat
I would… but the weight gain ;_;
Trenchcoats don’t weigh that much
I was indeed talking about the weight of I. As much as I love fitted trenchcoats I think my limit is loosely draped.
While I have never defaulted to wondering if friends hated me, I do overthink every vague response from someone. Not in a negative way, just all the possibilities and implications that there could be.
Asking for clarification from non-friends does frequently end in them being annoyed by me. No Susan, I don’t know what you are implying by pointing out someone’s is wearing a green shirt.
Missing social cues is adhd related. Not understanding implied social cues is more autism related. Many people with one have the other so it can be hard to separate them.
Social cues primarily require prior knowledge of the person and the context to have meaning. Stating that something is a color with no additional context as to why that color has a meaning is confusing.
“Thst shirt is blue!”
Ok. I wonder if it is just a bold color, a team color, doesn’t go with some other color they are wearing, or something else. A neurotypiczl person would probably just assume their first assumpton is correct but answer with a vague “It sure is!” they can both go on with their day whether they are on the same page or not.
The reason that this is my example is after having a lot of technical discussions that require shared understanding of details, it is apparent that the vast majority of people just assume they are on the same page when they are not. But they communicate in vsgue ways that don’t cause issues as long as nobody checks to see if they really are on the same page.
So someone who is allistic is likely going to have very little issue with the “shirt is blue” and moving on with their day. Just because someone is allistic doesn’t mean they are neurotypical, the common implication otherwise is just a pet peeve of mine.
The fact that the vagueness of the statement bothers you this much suggests to me that you are talking about an autistic more than adhd trait but ymmv.
I find it hilarious that wanting to understand things is a trait used for diagnosis.
I’m fairly sure most people don’t assume they know why someone said it’s blue, they just don’t care.
People say things to make conversation. It often fails to make sense, but you can just roll with it instead of autopsy-ing the conversation.
What Is A Focus definitely, but also sometimes it’s How Do I Stop Focus?
It’s a bit of a shame that ADD isn’t a thing anymore, just dropping the H makes it a lot less misleading. The attention deficit part is broadly descriptive of my issues
I do find it odd that it settled into ADHD-I, ADHD-H and ADHD-C; the one that is primarily expressed through hyperactivity literally is called “Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder - Hyperactive”.
Removing the H and using the subtypes would add clarity for sure.
I forgot about ___ while looking for the part to project ___ and now I have two things half done and can’t remember why
