• @TotallynotJessica@lemmy.world
    17•24 days ago

    You can still get the hair and fit! I always see these “unrealistic transition goals” and I’m like, “you know you can do that look without expecting you’ll be as hot as a cartoon or model, right?”

    It might even be that the look could never fit your vibe, but there will still be other looks that would work amazingly. I compare myself to others too; we all do it. Even super hot people compare themselves unfairly. It’s just how we think about our own appearance by default.

    Whenever I feel that way, I try to remember what it was like to hate literally everything about myself. If past me could see current me in the mirror, even though I’m still pre-HRT, she’d probably cry over seeing herself for the first time. I’m still motivated to look better, only now I don’t feel hopeless because I appreciate what does work. This isn’t easy at all, as you need to recognize and think critically about your own thoughts. Meditation helps, but it never comes naturally.

    • WilkerEnglish
      9•24 days ago

      but what if my unrealistic transition goal is literally a non-human form?

      jk

      kinda ^^’

    • ranmagenderOP
      4•24 days ago

      i mean sure but i dont think the picasso look is really that realistic haha, i mean i guess you can use facepaint, but also ENA’s body is like made out of shapes, her hair has angles, like thats not really achievable. its mostly a joke anyway.

      • @TotallynotJessica@lemmy.world
        5•24 days ago

        I mean without the Picasso skin. That outfit isn’t absurd and would look cute. I thought this wasn’t unique skill, but I can translate art styles like these into a realistic equivalent. She’s just wearing a black skirt and suspenders, with a button up t-shirt, black socks, and a hair bow. She has straightened hair with bangs, but it isn’t too elaborate. That part of her look isn’t an unrealistic goal at all! You’d look plenty cute in that :3

        • ranmagenderOP
          4•23 days ago

          well id like to be an abstract picasso shape person, that’d be pog but i get your point ^^’