For context: This Monday I came out to my work colleges and asked them also to call me by my new name and pronouns. Everyone is very supportive which is all that I could hope for. The only issue is, since in my family noone calls me by my actual name, not many people in my life actually call me by my chosen name (at least up until now).

With everyone at work calling me by my chosen name now, it actually feels quite a bit strange, uncomfortable and even a little embarrassing.

I did talk to my therapist about something like that once and he said that, yes, I am stepping out of my comfort zone and yes, that is uncomfortable but it’s a necessary step to get better.

And yet, my brain still slaps me with that sweet sweet imposter syndrome like “how can you be trans if what you want is making you uncomfortable” and so on.

And now I’m here, asking you for similar experiences you’ve had to hopefully get it through my fat skull that it’s a normal thing to feel (hopefully).

So. How long did it take you? Did it just click for you or was it just as uncomfortable as it is for me?

  • jahtnamas
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    2 months ago

    i still constantly misgender myself in my head mainly because i’m mostly closeted at home so when i see my neos (sie/hir) used in a conversation i’m in, i’m like [squinting guy with question marks in thought bubble dot png] and then when i realize i’m like “oh yeah that’s me, yaaaeyyyyy”

    ftr i’ve been using these neos for like two wait oops three years…

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      2 months ago

      (sie/hir)

      Sounds suspiciously German…

      You actually made me realize that I’m much more comfy with everything in English. I’ve been out to my friends for quite a while and I don’t really speak German with them for god knows why, so anyone affirming me in German feels odder I guess…