• DriftinGrifter
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    6 months ago

    i feel this on a spiritual level lol (not virgin v chad but talking to ppl and making normie friends)

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      6 months ago

      It’s a skill like anything else. It comes easier to some, harder to others, and it can be improved through repeated effort, exposure, and experience over time.

      Small talk is a good low risk situation that can give you opportunity to practice.

      Also, not living in the same place too long so you don’t build up a reputation of being awkward and oh god they know they all know I’m just a hairless chimp in a human suit why did I think this was a good idea oh shit oh fuck what do I say–

      “I’m doing good, how about you?”

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        6 months ago

        Yeah, like all skills you get better by practicing it. Fuck it up? Yeah that happens don’t make the same mistake again.

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        6 months ago

        let me correct my statement its not that i cant talk to people but my perspective on life makes it hard to relate to people outside my small circle of people from specific subcomunities it always feels like talking to aliens i can pretend to be one no problem but i’ll never be one

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      Step 1: Be honest about how nervous and awkward you are. It really busts up the pressure and things will get a little easier.

      Also there is an 80% chance that they are just as nervous and awkward.