There have been similar posts in the past and you all might be tired of commenting on them, but I’m really curious what it’s like for others. So here I am posting my own question thread.

Given that our core identities are defined by lots of different quirks, gender, romance, sexuality, platonic affinity being some of them. I am curious to know what aspects all of you measure yourself by and how you place yourselves within the bigger picture. Especially hoping for some wholesome takes that may help someone else feel more comfortable with themselves, should they adopt the way of thinking.

I’ll share my own take: Gender identity

  • Masculine-feminine spectrum: Definitely more comfortable with feminine side.
  • Fluidity: experiencing some, not sure if that is because of uncertainty or inherent.
  • Intensity flux: also experiencing some, some days are just a little extra “I want to be a girl”-days.
  • Overall: unsure about where that leaves me, status quo (I’m just me) is fine for now.

Attraction to others

  • Sexuality: Definitely bisexual, trans-inclusive (who would have guessed).
  • Romantic…ality?: Vastly different from sexuality, mostly romantically interested in women (cis or trans), i’d say biromantic with a 90% bias. Any men I’ve had romantic interest in shared some feminine traits, so ‘femromantic’? Is that a thing?

Social traits

  • Platonic affinity: Find myself feeling most comfortable around women. As long as I can remember I’ve always been one of the girls and some interactions with men actually confirm that I’m absolutely nothing like the average dude.
  • General sensitivity: Without a doubt HSP, even though others usually can’t tell (which gets me in trouble).
  • Social tolerance: Intuitively introverted, though have become more outgoing lately, so not strictly introverted.

Obviously these are just some examples of things we can measure ourselves by, curious to see which ones you will add or remove and why. And it goes without saying: Only share what you’re comfortable sharing.

TL;DR: I’m a huge nerd and have reduced myself to an n-dimensional vector, and I’m asking you to do the same and maybe add some dimensions you know of.

  • @kittenzrulz123MEnglish
    5•2 months ago

    Gender identity:

    • Masculine-feminine spectrum: Slightly more feminine but I try to be androgynous
    • Fluidity: Not a lot, I do occasionally learn more about myself but I think im done with that. Other than that I dont care what clothes I wear so ill wear whatever
    • Intensity flux: Mostly just labels changing around
    • Overall: Agender Transneutral

    Attraction to others:

    • Sexuality: None at all (Asexual)
    • Romantic: None at all (Aromantic)
    • Platonic: I have one freind who I rarely speak to but not much else

    other details: I guess I just like hanging out with people who arent transphobic, that sadly limits me severely in my community :(

    • Semivir [he/him, she/her]OPEnglish
      3•2 months ago

      Thanks for sharing! Sad to hear the bar is so low and your community still can’t get their shit together. When is the world going to learn it’s the transphobic bigots we should be afraid of?!

      Any amount of labels changing around is lilely a sign that the labels themselves are a shit representation (which, coincidentslly is also why there are so many of them). The entire point of this post was to give people some space to express the “ifs and buts” of their identities, which you’ve done a great job at.

      • @kittenzrulz123MEnglish
        3•2 months ago

        Thats how I see terms, I fully understand however that none of the terms describe me. In a way thats kinda why I like them