https://hexbear.net/post/2226865

You can find further details on how the survey was conducted here (yes I was drunk the whole time). 158 people responded yes or maybe. Noticed the survey here recently and wanted to share.

  • cowboycrustation [he/him]M
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    Dang…I did see a lot of tankie shit in the meta thread. That’s too bad it happened like that. Always makes me sad when there’s infighting among trans people.

    • kristina (she/her)OP
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      as a mod of c/traa on hexbear, yeah if it were me id love to just to link all the trans comms together. having them all split just increases workload and burnout on trans mods of all instances dealing with transphobia and spreads out the trans community too much. this is why we have 23 mods on c/traa, to spread out the annoyance and remove bad content before any vulnerable people see it. we usually remove bad stuff within 5 minutes, no matter the timezone. its also more democratic, less cliquey, and we regularly ask people to mod with no requirement other than being trans/adjacent. in fact, if you asked to mod on c/traa id add you in a heartbeat

      there were also some significant issues with dm harassment from 196 users towards trans women, and we’re extremely overprotective of our vulnerable users so we’re much more likely to pull the plug on federation than other instances if even a few infractions have happened without people being banned/posts removed from that instance.

      if it was possible to federate with only the trans communities here, i feel like everyone would agree with it.

      • cowboycrustation [he/him]M
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        That sucks that happened with 196. I blocked it pretty much the day I got Lemmy because I found the content annoying. It seems so out of place on this instance. My experience on here has been good so far.

        I agree with you that most people would want to unite if it were only the trans communities on here. The more people, the more support and resources.

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          Grain of salt: the Hexbear admins fail to mention any “DM harassment of trans women” (from 196 or blahaj) in their defederation announcement, which seems like a huge detail to leave out if you’re defederating over alleged transphobia.

          And spinning stuff like that is why I don’t trust people trying to upsell Hexbear 🤷‍♂️

          • kristina (she/her)OP
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            Grain of salt: the Hexbear admins fail to mention any “DM harassment of trans women” (from 196 or blahaj) in their defederation announcement, which seems like a huge detail to leave out if you’re defederating over alleged transphobia.

            Most defederation announcements don’t usually assign a cause, a user usually requests it in a thread and then the admins bring it to a vote if it gets enough attention. I personally voted to stay with blahaj but with the addendum that we ban all regular 196 posters and mods. If you search around you can see a handful of people posting personal experiences with harassment from 196 here. Its been a long time but I recall getting sexually harassed as well, though that user did eventually get banned here much later.

            Out of the hundred or so very active trans commenters, only 5 voted to stay federated with blahaj, me included. Though some trans people were very hurt by this, so ultimately I was fine with defed, I voted to stay federated mostly for trans unity reasons.

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              For anyone interested, the Hexbear defederation announcement thread with the specific reasons for defederation listed can be read here.

              • kristina (she/her)OP
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                Yeah theres a handful of other associated threads related to this topic too. Technically Tomboyshulk referencing chasers in that post was referring to the DM harassment of trans women.

                https://hexbear.net/post/1592846

                https://hexbear.net/post/373222

                There was a refed post where the second one came up. They made a refed post due to a new lemmy feature coming out

                • @Catoblepas
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                  Not sure what the veganism post has to do with anything. Edit: I think the link was borked for me, it’s working now.

                  It’s weird that no Meganium97 shows up at all in Blahaj’s modlogs, how’s that happen?

                  • Good Girl [she/they]M
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                    FYI Meganium97 deleted their account suddenly after I posted in our meta comm to please not do the same thing we nearly defederated programming.dev over. (accusing trans users of not actually being trans)

                    fwiw I anonymized their username when I posted it here but they came forward and apologized but then they started doubling down on it before deleting their account. https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/7453376?scrollToComments=true

                  • kristina (she/her)OP
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                    Not sure how the modlog works here. Sometimes on hexbear if someone began to post identifying info we don’t remove the post, but purge the user entirely from the database so no information is shared in the modlog. Maybe @ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone did similar

        • kristina (she/her)OP
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          yeah i block it on this account too. far too jarring and it clogs out all the cool lgbt stuff.

          im also very serious about my offer to add any trans people here as a mod on c/traa btw. hit me up if you want it 🤣

          we even have a super secret evil group chat

          • cowboycrustation [he/him]M
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            62 months ago

            I appreciate the offer, but I’ve really got my hands full moderating six different communities on here.

            • kristina (she/her)OP
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              yeah feel that. i do just one and its annoying enough