I was thinking of making a community engagement post last week in the run up to the Easter weekend and transgender day of visibility, but it got lost under a recent promotion at work and a few busy days.

So yeah how was your Easter weekend / TDoV? 😊 Most of my family is on vacation so I just had a quiet weekend at home with my partner. All the drama that went down with TDoV landing on Easter Sunday was… unsettling to say the least. I hope everyone was able to weather that storm of hate and propaganda safely.

  • fadingembers
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    43 months ago

    Been getting relentlessly sirred and brothered anytime I go outside which is destroying me. Won’t be able to do anything about FFS until I can get my braces off which I don’t currently have a timeline on.

    Had my first experience with “trans broken arm syndrome” and the doctor blaming a health issue I am having on HRT. I wouldn’t take that for an answer, and I eventually got them to take me seriously but it still sucked having to deal with that.

    The ghosts of trauma have been haunting me this week as well, bringing everything else down with it. Wishing I could be less of a downer lol

    Congrats on your promotion though :)

    • @LadyAutumnOPM
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      53 months ago

      Ugh, I hate when people feel the need to gender you every other word and repeatedly get it wrong. I’m sorry but like it’s not that hard to tell if someone is a woman or not, and even if you’re unsure you can just as easily avoid gendered terminology. So frustrating 🙄 I go out fully done up, push up bra and makeup on, wearing a cute dress and using my voice and sometimes still get misgendered seemingly out of spite.

      Sorry you had that experience with the doctor. They can be so honed in on specifically us being trans. I’ve only ever had it once, but I know how invalidating and frustrating it is. Medical transphobia is so serious. I hope that’s your one and only experience with this.

      I’m sorry you had a bad week with trauma :( are you seeing anyone professionally that you talk to about it? It’s so important to take our trauma seriously. It shouldn’t be debilitating, and we often just accept it as how life is for us. I hope you’re doing better today! ❤️

      And thank you!! 😊 super new role for me, and the first time I’ve ever gotten a promotion, haha, so it’s all very new and exciting.

      • fadingembers
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        33 months ago

        Thank you for the support @LadyAutumn ♥️ ♥️ ♥️ You always know what to say :) I dress pretty androgynously, which I know isn’t helping, but my fear keeps me from going out full fem in my current location. I’m really really trying to get over it so I can stop compromising on my appearance.

        I am in pretty intensive therapy currently, which I’m sure is why stuff is rising to the surface. I think I am doing better today :) It’s Friday and Fridays are always good lol

        I think once the promotion dam breaks you’ll be getting one promotion after another! It sounds like your hard work has really paid off and I hope the new role is super rewarding!!