• good_girl
    2·
    8 months ago

    I’m gonna be real, looking through your account, you seem like a bioessentialist. Potentially a terf, though one that hides it well.

    Some of the things you’ve said are rooted in bioessentialism and come off as very backhanded which I’m assuming set off the other commenter’s alarm bells. Quit the act or educate yourself from a trans positive feminist angle, whichever fits your role better.

    for anyone that happens to read this and feels lost, here is a good place to start with what bioessentialism is and why it’s linked to terfs.

    • Feddyteddy@lemmy.sdf.org
      1·
      8 months ago

      I have nothing against trans people, I’ve said nothing against trans people. I didn’t know of this term “bioessentialism,” but thanks to you, I’ve just looked it up. It does not describe my views. I am 100% aware of the concept of people being genetically one way while having a different gender. There is nothing wrong with this at all. I have never said anything remotely like that.

      This other commenter is not serious. They are pretending to be trans in order to make them look bad. I don’t know why they are so hateful, but at this point, there really is no other explanation. There is no reason they would be so awful to someone trying to learn.

      • good_girl
        2·
        8 months ago

        eat shit

        edit:

        I didn’t know of this term “bioessentialism,” but thanks to you, I’ve just looked it up.

        yeah i sure fucking hope you did, i linked an article.

        • Feddyteddy@lemmy.sdf.org
          1·
          8 months ago

          The article didn’t show up. I appreciate you introducing me to a new term. The whole point of me being here is to learn.

          • whoreticulture@lemmy.world
            3·
            8 months ago

            lmao “new term” right okay so you have somehow encountered the word “genetic men” and all these terf ass arguments and points, but you have never heard of a terf or of bioessentialism.

            • Feddyteddy@lemmy.sdf.org
              2·
              8 months ago

              This is what I think happened. Some assholes somehow convinced you that anyone who isn’t already super knowledgeable about this stuff has to be evil with deep secret motives. Now, when anyone asks questions or doesn’t know certain things, you immediately go into psycho vicious attack mode. This only serves to benefit the asshole. It makes you come across as an absolute asshole who hates anyone who tries to learn. They tricked you. If you want to beat them, then just be kind and quit assuming everyone is out to get you.

              • good_girl
                4·
                8 months ago

                It’s pattern recognition as a survival strategy.

                You’re talking to someone part of a vulnerable and marginalized minority group, they’re going to be on edge because of so many people that treat us like shit or literally want us dead.

                Wanna know how to make sure trans people don’t attack you when you (assuming in good faith) “just ask questions?” Don’t be argumentative when they tell you something contrary to your preexisting beliefs.

                • Feddyteddy@lemmy.sdf.org
                  2·
                  8 months ago

                  I’m sorry that people have been so very bad to them. I know it sucks. I can’t imagine what it is like. I can’t relate to what someone must have gone through to make them so angry about questions and common expressions. It must be awful. I feel like it would require an absolute expert to be able to navigate this minefield of potential triggers, and I highly doubt that the average person will be able to do it any time soon, if ever. This isn’t just “be kind” and everything will be alright. This is “if you don’t have memorized a whole bunch of stuff or if you are new to it, then you will be shouted down and called a bunch of names and told what a bigot you are”.

                  Nobody can be expected to immediately be at that point. This is a perfect recipe for a self-fulfilling prophecy of misunderstandings and ongoing hate. The people who are winning from all this are the people who want there to be needless fights. It’s not my place to speak to how traumatized people should behave, so I won’t do that. All I can say is that most people I know would much rather avoid conversations that have such a high chance of being so accidentally aggressive and as a result this wall isn’t going to come down any time soon.

                  • good_girl
                    3·
                    8 months ago

                    just gonna repeat this because it seems like you didn’t see it

                    Wanna know how to make sure trans people don’t attack you when you (assuming in good faith) “just ask questions?” Don’t be argumentative when they tell you something contrary to your preexisting beliefs.

                • Feddyteddy@lemmy.sdf.org
                  2·
                  8 months ago

                  If you are being serious right now, then it absolutely is difficult. You taught me terf. I never know about them before I met you. I have no talking points. I’m a random curious person with no affiliations, I’ve never voted, I’ve never been a part of any group that has anything to do with trans people.

                  • whoreticulture@lemmy.world
                    3·
                    8 months ago

                    so weird how you happened upon the same terms and arguments terfs use!!! just a random person who accuses everyone who disagrees with them of being a fake account or fake trans personnnnnn just a random person asking silly questions tee hee

    • Feddyteddy@lemmy.sdf.org
      1·
      8 months ago

      Thanks, I see the article now. It must have been part of the edit, so I missed it before. I appreciate you taking the time to make the link.