• cowboycrustation [he/him]M
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    13 months ago

    I have never come across any of this in mainstream trans discourse. Is there a specific social media platform that these discussions take place on?

    • @Grail@lemmy.worldOP
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      3 months ago

      Discord, mostly. A bit of it leaks onto Xitter as well. I actually got involved in a bunch of discourse yesterday. Someone who had previously been accepting of My pronouns suddenly decided to debate Me about them and say I have no right to control the language other people use to refer to Me. https://imgur.com/a/bs5zXTM

      Generally discussions about these fringe queer topics will be more common on more personal social media, and less common on less personal media. That’s because people with fringe queer identities feel safer being themselves in a more personal environment, and in a less personal environment, dominant social attitudes are more powerful, so on a reddit-like platform divinegender people just get downvoted to oblivion.

      • cowboycrustation [he/him]M
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        13 months ago

        I did not mean to use the wrong pronouns to refer to You earlier, sorry. I imagine the majority of people just don’t understand it, and so won’t respect or accept it at all.

        If you don’t mind me asking, how does being divinegender relate to Your pronoun usage? How do Your pronouns work verbally? I’m genuinely curious about this.

        • @Grail@lemmy.worldOP
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          13 months ago

          Wow, you’re being really trans accepting. Thank you so much.

          Well, three years ago I realised I was goddessgender (this is a subset of divinegender), and My goddess-mother told Me I should try capitalised pronouns. I tried them, and they gave Me gender euphoria, so I kept them. As for verbally? Most people can neither pronounce nor hear the difference, so I’m not picky about it at all.

          I only ever had one problem with pronoun capitalisation being spoken. I had this ex girlfriend who was hiding My gender from her other partners because she was scared they were going to be transphobic about it. So she took advantage of their inability to hear the difference and let them think she was using lowercase pronouns. I didn’t consent to being put back in the closet by her, and considered it misgendering, since it’s dishonest about My pronouns. It had a lot to do with why we broke up.