Over the years, I’ve seen many folk talking about their relationship with femininity and how it relates to their transition and to their sense of identity, of who they are.

I’ve never understood it though. I don’t feel like I have a relationship with femininity, or at least, nothing beyond pragmatic necessity. It doesn’t relate to my sense of identity or who I am. In many ways, it feels like an obligation, rather than a source of empowerment or self understanding.

So, I’m curious how it works for other folk who find empowerment in it. What does it mean to you? How did it help you find yourself? How do you relate to femininity now vs earlier in your life?

Edit - To add some context. I’m 7 years transitioned, and “post transition” for want of a better term. I’m quite comfortable with my own relationship (or lack of it) with femininity. This is more an exercise in trying to understand different perspectives :)

  • @phi
    3•3 months ago

    I love this thread - so many thoughtful people here. This is something I’ve been thinking about quite a bit recently - really just starting to question all of the assumptions I’ve been making my whole life about how one should think about the world, and how one should be.

    I’m enjoying allowing myself to be vulnerable. I’m enjoying being able to be deliberate about my identity and how I project myself on the world, and to use that to care for and help others. I’m also enjoying feeling that it’s legitimate for me to care for, be compassionate towards and love myself.