Hey everyone.

I’ve been a little swamped in my personal life lately, and when I checked in this week it I’ve seen a few things that worry me.

Some of you may know that this community is one of the ones that replaced an old subreddit after the api stuff. There were some rules there that aren’t so explicit here in our rules. I’ll be working on rewriting the rules in our sidebar soon, but I want to make a few rules clear:

1. This community exists to support people questioning their gender. Be kind and respectful if you’re going to comment. I’ve seen some mean, hurtful, or angry comments posted here in the last little bit. Don’t bring that energy here, a lot of people come here to get away from hurtfulness. We will remove comments and dm you privately.
2. IT IS NEVER OKAY TO CRACK SOMEONE ELSE’S EGG. Many of you have likely seen the post that inspired this rule clarification and this whole post. I won’t link it here, but this isn’t just an egg irl rule. genderdysphoria.fyi calls it “The Egg Prime Directive”. People need to find and define their own journey. We can tell our own stories, but we cannot dictate the stories of others. This is obviously a zero-tolerance rule, and is definitely ban-worthy. Absolutely not allowed here.
3. Do not invalidate other people’s experiences. I’ve seen this in at least one post, something along the lines of “i don’t think this necessarily means anything about gender”. Here’s i’d like to refer to the rule #1 of !adhd@lemmy.dbzer0.com: (Rule 1). Basically the entirety of this post applies; there are some aspects of questioning your gender that may seem mundane to an outsider. This does not mean that the person who posted this experiences it in the same way as you. And, for some of us, things that felt mundane to us before too took on a whole new and deeper meaning as we found our way on our journeys.
4. We still have a title rule. Please follow it. This is a tradition of egg irl from the reddit days. We could at some point reconsider this rule, but I still believe it is a good one as I summarized in a post here. This one I’m more lenient on. If you break it, I will post in your thread and politely ask you to edit your title, and either forcibly rename it or just remove it only if the author doesn’t fix it. In the future, I would like to even automate this part with a bot.

As I said, I will be working on a more official stickied rules post, and updating our sidebar rules to reflect as well, but I felt it important to post these for now. I owe understanding of myself to the original egg irl and I want this to be similarly helpful for other eggs.

All of that said, I’d also like some mod help here. A few things I’d want from potential mods:

1. you have a local lemmy.blahaj.zone account.
2. under that account you have a history of posting here / other lgbtq+ communities positively
3. that if you become a mod, you also make sure to get set up with matrix so you can be in the blahaj.zone matrix’s mod chat channel along with me.
4. i’d also prefer cracked eggs only; the mods here should consider themselves protective roosters & mother hens, nurturing and guarding our precious lil eggs <3

Please post here if you’d like to be considered, I will be choosing a couple of mods carefully.