Since Laura has been awol for a few months, I reached out to Ada to see if I could take over modding for this com. I know we’re fairly small but decently active so there’s not much to worry about, but I like the com so here we are.
I’m not planning on changing up anything as the banner/icon/desc all fit the vibes so they stay as is. (Maybe I’ll change the desc a bit since Laura originally wrote it in first person? idk)
If Laura comes back I’ll let her know the situation and we’ll go from there.
Love y’all!
Honestly, there’s only been like 2 posts that’ve made me uncomfy from the “femboys just haven’t gotten their egg cracked” angle, ofc there’s more people to worry about that just me but I thought I’d pop my perspective in here. I don’t think it’s a big issue in this community, and while it might be nice to have something about it in the sidebar, I don’t think anything will really change because it wasn’t really a problem in the first place. It’s almost commonplace in egg_irl, but that’s honestly to be expected given the subject matter of that community. When I say that, I mean not outright disrespectful stuff is almost common place, like no one there is ranting about how femboys are invalid, it’s just a community focused on realizing they’re trans, the memes are going to be about being trans and not realizing/being in denial. Those posts can make me uncomfy even though they’re not targeted at me, and that’s not the posters fault. Sorry, got off topic on a tangent there. Anyways imo there’s very little invalidating stuff posted here and while it might be nice to have an official word or two about it in the sidebar I don’t think it’s a big deal if there isn’t.
I know here it’s not a huge issue, the thing is, Egging is an issue which is rarely if ever addressed, and if it is, it usually isn’t at the sources of it, typically it’s addressed in the femboy communities. I think it’s important for us, all of us to recognize how it can be hurtful, so we think more about it before doing or saying things that could make GNC people uncomfortable or invalidated.
I can fully understand how memes can feel validating to one group and I respect that. I just feel it’s important to be careful not to be invalidating at the same time. One person’s happiness and validation should not come at the cost of another person’s happiness and validation.
Gotcha! Yeah I wasn’t saying it shouldn’t be something that gets addressed, moreso just sharing my happiness at the current state of the community