It’s something I’m really struggling with, thanks to it it feels like I’m obsessed with the idea of ‘passing’, like whenever I see other trans women who don’t pass it gives me a little burst of dread, thinking that it’s impossible to pass and I’d never be able to. That horrible fear of looking “like a man in a dress” like there’s actually a problem with that outside of the societal expectation I’ve had slotted into my brain.

I know that you don’t have to pass to be trans, and that all trans women are equally valid, and that what I really need to do is to let go of the idea of passing altogether, and just be happy being who I am on the inside.

I was just wondering if any of you girls have been through something similar, and if you had any advice. Xx

  • violetraven
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    1 year ago

    I felt just like you-- I still do when my thoughts get dark.
    I started doing this when I started playing roller derby. We come in so many shapes and sizes. My “derby wife” is cis and we have the same body.
    Most of us “look trans”, cis people included, because we vary so much.