Hyia!

I have already mentioned how “nice” it is to be a trans girl in a small legacy software company, so unless anybody wants that I will not go into detail.

but I would love to hear others experiences or advice <3, positive or negative, what kind of company do you work at?, how is your experience?

infodumps welcome!

Lots of love <3, Xea

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    I tried a startup, a small legacy software comp like yours, a 5000+ people corporation, and a shitty dev shop and an international regulatory body

    • Startup is hit or miss
    • 5000+ corp has diversity policies that protect you but outside of those they won’t care
    • Shitty dev shop will be full of transphobes but they’ll never show it to your face
    • Smol old software company will do everything to preserve the good vibes of the office, if they hire you it should go smoothly
    • Big international gov has eastern european/greek/balkans/portuguese devs and they come with their religious beliefs and not super cutting edge beliefs about gender. They’ll have diversity policies but way less progressive than a private company - the bare uncriticizeable minimum, to cause the least amount of waves. Safe, no risk, and safe again.
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      I agree with your point on small software comps, issue is, I was still very unsure about my identity when I got hired, which is imo the only reason they took me, considering Im constantly disrespected, called by my deadname although I have made it clear I don’t want to be and I constantly listen to my coworkers talk about the “insanity of gender politics” as most of them are in the age close to retiring, which didn’t make it easy to actually learn to be myself

      also wow you have alot of experience!! :o

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        The way I wrote it makes it look bigger than it is

        • I worked at the startup as an apprenticeship (2 years) during my master’s degree,
        • Barely did 4 months in a dev shop (they seemed stingy from the get-go so I continued looking for work as I was starting there)
        • A year in the big corporation
        • A year in the small company
        • Ongoing half a year in big-international-government

        Overall it’s just ~3 years out of school

        If your coworkers are like that, it’s all ogre, this is the company’s culture and they’re never going to let go senior people who became friends with everyone if irreconcilable differences were to arise between you and them - also management probably shares the same opinions

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          I mean … that makes it seam like even more for me :3

          jup that is how it feels and I have kind of emotionally adjusted to it, I have been meaning to look somewhere else, but I have no plan and no energy, I can’t just join some big corp because I couldn’t get a full education and the only reason I choose this place is because of my rather severe sensory issues