• Cattypat
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    117 months ago

    I’m not the target audience cause I’m still fairly young but I never really… understood feeling the need for lots of friends? I talk to family a lot and I don’t really want much more. I used to be in a friend group at a time and always thought it was too chaotic. Could be the autism? It’s probably the autism.

    • Naah. Quality over quantity goes for many people, without any neurodivergence as prerequirement.

      A friend from highschool, that is more of an aquaintance today always throws huge parties with 50+ guests and he does many things with his flatmates/uni colleagues and other groups. Still when i get to see him at his parties he’s always running around talking to different people, but with an expression of loneliness in his face.

      I like to think of friends on a spectrum of fair weather-bad weather. Fair weather friends are the people who are the most hilarious to hang out with, throw parties or go out. But they tend not to show up, or genuinely care, when you are down. Bad weather friends are people you might not have the best fit in terms of activities or world view or other stuff, that makes friendships easy going. But they stick out for you, if the need arises.

      I prefer one bad weather friend, i see once in a blue-moon over ten good weather friends i see every week.

    • Sabata11792
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      57 months ago

      I some how managed to make friends for the first time in my life since elementary school. Noticeable improvement in mood. Still no GF.