On Blahaj and 196 - Hexbear
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Due to multiple factors, such as unaddressed ableist removals [https://hexbear.net/pictrs/image/3df0e4c7-bb64-4c00-bbdb-5c753018895c.jpeg?format=webp] from the /c/196 moderators, defense of chasers [https://hexbear.net/pictrs/image/97e9abd7-e8be-499e-8db7-7a7d5d1e2762.webp], no-quarter rules regarding our users [https://hexbear.net/pictrs/image/8dc37487-d36b-4a55-9519-c3f8bb4fcae6.png], leakage of good-faith DMs from our admin team [https://hexbear.net/post/361826], and a general lack of initiative to punish these behaviors, we have come to the conclusion that the 196 community on lemmy.blahaj.zone has made the fediverse an unsafe space for our queer, disabled, neurodivergent, non-western, and other marginalized comrades on this forum, and we will be defederating from lemmy.blahaj.zone until we can be confident that this will not continue to be an issue. We have attempted to make good-faith parley with both the instance admin and the comm moderators, but we've reached a point which we feel that until these behaviors are addressed by instance administration, we can no longer continue to federate in good-faith while our users are being actively invalidated by a small-but-vocal portion of the forum. Once we are confident that these behaviors have ceased and are unlikely to continue, we are more-than-happy to refederate in the name of queer solidarity. Thanks for bearing with us :07:
  • GarfGirl [she/her]
    5·
    7 months ago

    [I got a bot to automatically delete all my comments over 1 month old so you can’t see this comment anymore]

    • Moss
      26·
      1 year ago

      Oh yeah I remember this whole fiasco. The argument was literally just attraction to body types/features versus attraction to genders. This person was expressing that they’re only attracted to archetypaly “female” body features but are open to dating any one of any gender identity. The whole fight is basically just people thinking that they’re fetishizing trans men when they’re just expressing that well they’re fine with dating someone with a masculine identity, they don’t think it would work if the person wasn’t comfortable in a feminine body. I don’t really want to get into this again, but there’s nothing wrong with that in it of itself.

      • NuMetalAlchemist
        21·
        1 year ago

        Some folks refuse to believe there are different levels of dysphoria. Like so many things, it’s a spectrum.

        • Moss
          19·
          1 year ago

          Seriously! I’m transfem, have been for years, 2 years on hormones, but I have no problem with my voice. Let it be masculine! Who the fuck cares. It doesn’t matter! Lot of trans people feel similar ways about different things

          • NuMetalAlchemist
            17·
            1 year ago

            Due to hormone issues, I was basically presented with a choice to transition if I wanted. It was a serious consideration that I had to make. Took over a year to decide. I wished I was fem (still kinda do) but I couldn’t part with my lil buddy. Femboys weren’t really a thing back then, so yeah. Not every GQ person needs to want to undergo GRS to “qualify” as trans. Gatekeepy bullshit.

            • Moss
              13·
              1 year ago

              REAL. thank you for sharing your story!

      • GarfGirl [she/her]
        8·
        7 months ago

        [I got a bot to automatically delete all my comments over 1 month old so you can’t see this comment anymore]

          • vzqEnglish
            6·
            1 year ago

            Because it’s not, and some people are too quick to be triggered.

            It helps that there was an entire instance trawling our posts, looking for any controversy to amplify into the short story du jour.

            I’m all for talking about these things and figuring out what norms we want to uphold in our spaces. I’m not in favor of waves hands whatever this has turned out to be.